I feel like a terrible mother!!!

Samantha - posted on 04/13/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )




My 2 year old daughter had my partners keys and pushed the button to put up the roller door and neither of us knew she did it. It's happened before but you can always hear it go up and this time we didn't. About 20 minutes later she wanted to go play with our dog outside. I was at the back watching her play as i normally would when i started feeling the need to vomit so i came inside. *i am 3 months pregnant-so the vomitting is often! When i went back outside she was gone and so was our dog and when i went around the side i noticed the garage door was up. I screamed for my partner and I ran out the front. I called her name and a young man was standing next door and said his a his friend had her, apparently she had just walked to the corner with our dog which is 2 houses down when the couple saw her and she was fine. Then this random man who must have pulled over in his car was screaming abuse at me about how i was a terrible mother and don't deserve my daughter. I don't blame him, i most likely would have reacted similar if i had found someone's child in those circumstances, but he just made me feel much more worse than i was already feeling. I've been crying for the past 2 hours. Am I a bad mum? Does anyone else have kids that have done anything similar? Feedback is appreciated, I'm feeling horrible, a nervous wreck, and so angry with myself all at the same time.


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Dawn - posted on 04/20/2013




You are not a bad mom...my mind wonders in the store and sometimes I have to keep my mind focused....or keep my daughter in a cart. I would suggest keeping a bucket outside or just throw up in the bushes. You're outside, the weather will take care of it naturally. Keep the keys in a safe place or keep them with you. That way she can't get out.

Nicole - posted on 04/19/2013




Your not a bad mother. Stuff like this happens. Apparently that man isn't a father. Just explained to your child that she can't do that and put your keys in a safe place to where she can't get them. Don't let anyone tell you that you are a bad mother. Good luck :)

Jazmin - posted on 04/15/2013




Every mother questions whether she's a good mother or not. And I honestly don't think any mom thinks she's doing an A+ job, 100 percent of the time.
Once, I thought I lost my daughter at a store once, and started panicking and freaking out. I called and called but she wouldn't respond! About two minutes later, I found that she was hiding in the middle of a clothing rack, by my mom! I felt like a terrible mother. My mom assured me that things like this happen to every parent, and usually more than once!
Honestly, it sounds like it was a fluke that your daughter was able to get out of the yard at all! At least it ended well. Maybe try to have a talk to her about why she always needs to stay with you, or your partner; and why it's dangerous to go out without you. This is a learning opportunity, and it really sounds like it was an accident. Don't worry, I'm sure you're a good mom. :)
Jazmin L.

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