I'm not sure how to get through to my 5 year old...

Jennifer - posted on 08/23/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son just barely turned 5 in july so he barely made the mark for entering kindergarten this year, but the teachers are saying that he should have another year of preschool. It's very frustrating because he knows his colors one day, and then another day he just looks at you with a blank stare and says the wrong color after like a whole minute or two! Whenever my husband and I ask him simple things like counting to 5 he just spits out random numbers, yet when he's alone in his room I hear him counting to 20!

It seems like he doesn't like being pressured, but the teachers are going to ask him questions and if he don't answer correctly or at all they're gonna assume he doesn't know it whether I say he does or not and it made me so mad. I don't really know what else to do because I feel like another year of preschool will do nothing more for him, yet kindergarten he will struggle because he doesn't want to try. He has issues with even trying he just doesn't seem to care... i mean he just sits on his bike and doesn't even try! I'm not sure what we did wrong as parents for him to be this way? But trying to make it fun he starts to just play rather than listen...

It doesn't make it any easier when he's actually my stepchild and i have only been mother to him since he was 3 almost 4 and I am not used to children I was always the youngest around. And we have no family around to help either.... but I am trying really hard to be patient. But when you go back and forth between 2 colors and he already acts like he forgot.. it's reaaally frustrating.

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Jennifer - posted on 08/30/2011

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Well it's not that he's forgetting something that's new he's been going over the same things for over a year now and still can't remember more than 2 colors and other things :P People are saying in my post that it's normal but it's not normal everyone around notices he acts more like he just turned 3, not 5.

Jessica - posted on 08/26/2011

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hello, i can relate to this, i have a 6 yr who is starting kindergarten next week. But last year when we took her for kindergarten they wanted her to have another year of preschool because she wouldnt answer the questions for the teachers even though she knew the answers. It was a hard to decision an we finally decided to put her in preschool for the year an it has helped out a lot. It isnt always the same for every child though! We have tried to make things more interesting as to colors an counting an the abc's. While in the car we play i spy or see what numbers we can see. Patience is the key with kids of this age! Hoped this helped some...just remember to keep it positive an make games of it! P.S. we used m&ms an skittles an different colored candies or fruits for colors an counting...good luck

Lilliana - posted on 08/25/2011

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The national standard for going into kindergarten are that your son should be able to identify numbers 1-10, know opposite, be able to count to at least 10, be able to recognize familiar written words, know his alphabet and basic shapes. And sit still with concentration for at least 10 minutes! If you feel like your son can't do these things maybe keeping him back is best for him?
A good way to test if he really does know colors is to ask him to go and a the blue ball or red book. Just see what he brings you! Good luck!

Krista - posted on 08/23/2011

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Hi. Both my kids seem to forget what they knew only a few minutes earlier when they're learning something new. I don't think it is anything to worry about. They're not necessarily resisiting learning it could be that they're testing other ways of thinking things through. I agree that it is frustrating and hard when we see their lifetime of learning ahead of them and they seem to be stumbling but it is great that you do work with him yourself. I was "held back" due to being too young to start kindergarden by a month or so. I was then one of the oldest in my grade through the rest of my education but that wasn't a problem for me at all. Unless he gets the message from you or his teachers that he has a problem he probably won't think so either. Best of luck and bless your heart for simply doing the best you can because he sees that it is important to you and that you care and that makes all the difference to his self esteem and confidence to keep at it himself.

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