I need help. The depepartment of social services was called and they came out. Everything was going good with me but the father began using more and more. Well o sumit up since 2012 I have had 2 bad drug tests onw was taken on febuary 6,2015 and that ws positive for opites, the next one was on 2/23/15 for alcohol which becuase of my presciption medication im not aloowd to drink. Well the put my daughter with the paterenal aunt on 2/23/15. Then on March 13th they sent my daughter to Florida without my permission. Now Im stuck in this dilemma where both Maryland and Florida are saying its up to the paternal grandfather to give her back to me and I believe nomatter how good I do he will never give her back. So I filed for custody here in Maryland because thats what 2 lawyers told me to do. Now Im being told the minute she gets back to Maryland she will go in foster care for good. I'm so lost without my daugher. She was never neglected or abused. I actually spoiled her too much honestly. She just turned 3. Im in parentig classes, seeinf a phyciatrist, therapist , and going to na meetings and Im also in a drug progran getting that Im paying extra to get tested 4 times randomly a month. What to I do? Do i take my chances with filing for custody?

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Martha - posted on 04/15/2015

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Keep doing what your doing with bettering yourself and make sure you keep dates and track of everything you do along with witnesses to back you up. As long as you and others around you can back up and prove you've done nothing but get help and make yourself better for your child/children there's nothing saying you can't be with your children again unless its been declared by a judge that you are unfit and you have lost all rights to your child. Fight for your children no matter what. Not fighting will get you no where but sitting there wondering what if....

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Deann - posted on 08/03/2015

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Keep it head up and doing everything they want you to do. If u need someone to talk to I'm a stay home mom. I've been in a similar situation and feel your pain. But I now have my two boys and happily married. Sober:) you can do it.

Alexandra - posted on 07/31/2015

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Hi, Julia. I dont have experience with custody issues, but I am an addict in recovery. I want to tell you to keep up the good work, keep coming back, and message me if you need a woman support. The program has changed my life in a huge way and Id love to talk about recovery any time.

Julia - posted on 07/17/2015

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I was never stripped of my rights, that's what makes this so confusing. Now I have talked to 5 lawyers and they are shocked this and was allowed to happen. I have filed for custody and the court ordered mediation. Me and my daughters father go on 7/22/15 for the first one and he said he wants me to have our daughter back and that he has seen how much that I have changed. All I do is work. The paternal Grandfather is in Florida who has her is refusing to give her back even thought dss told him this was temporary. I have done everything asked of me and then some. I graduated parenting class. I have proof that I have been clean. I go to a therapist at least biweekly and I see a physiatrist. He is poisoning my baby against me but thank god its not really working. I call her every night. She says she wants to come home and what she wants to do and she is only 3. The day they took her out of my arms they said I allegedly let her father see her unsupervised which I did not. SO I broke a safety plan. Its all so frustrating and every time I get good news its soon followed by bad.

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