is it ok to have a second baby shower thrown for you 3yrs after 1st baby

Kristy - posted on 05/23/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )




im 20 weeks and was asked if my friend can throw me a baby shower this is my second child first one a boy who will be 3 when the second one arrives im not sure of the sex but also not sure on the etiquitte of a second shower please help!!!


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If your friend wants to throw you a shower.... it's always appropriate. :)

Of course, I come from where EVERY baby is celebrated. The first baby shower is usually the 'girly' one w/ women only and all those cheesy games that I can't stand. All other baby showers are usually families and friends, potluck style type of thing. Gifts ARE included, but definitely not the main focus.

Karina - posted on 05/26/2011




When I had my first son I had 3 baby showers! lol My family threw one, my husbands family threw another, and finlly my friends did too. With my second child I only had one but I threw that one my self and still recieved many gifts when my daughter was born from visitors. I didn't ask for them they just were happy I was finlly having a baby. Now that I think about it it would be hard to have everyone in one place. Our families are big, and we have a lot of friends. So enjoy your baby showers...

Michelle - posted on 05/25/2011




Most people have showers for every baby these days. I wasn't sure either. For my second and third I just went out to lunch with the women in my family (mom, grandma, sis, SIL, etc). Didn't really feel like it was appropriate to have a great big shower, but my family wanted to. If someone wants to give you one you might as well.

Dora - posted on 05/25/2011




Many people have 2nd baby showers now. A lot of them are called sprinkles. It's a version of a baby shower but smaller. If someone wants to give you one then go with it. If people want to come then they will. You are not forcing anyone to show that don't want to. If you already have everything then don't register just let people come and share in your joy and happiness.

Katherine - posted on 05/23/2011




I had a baby shower with my first and 2 with my second. I was totally not expecting it. Even though it's not the norm if someone wants to throw a shower for a second child I say go with it!!!!
It's fun, you get things you don't have anymore and it's all about you. And you get to see people you haven't seen in a long time.
I loved playing the games. The etiquette isn't really an issue if someone else throws it for you. So party on girl!!!!


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Alesha - posted on 05/26/2011




HOnestly if someone wants to throw you a shower I would graciously accept, but now just put yourself in everyone's shoes and how would you feel if you got invited to another shower. I don't think there is anything wrong with another shower, but are your friend's and family pretty understanding and will they know you aren't just trying to get more gifts out of them, you just accepted to have another shower. I hope that makes sense. I think some might be affended too if you don't know what the sex of the baby is on top of another shower. I am not sure how things go where you are from, but for some reason women around here get a little pissy, they just want to know everything. If you choose not to find out, perfect then that is your decision, but maybe talk it over with your mom and see what she thinks you should do. I would accept another shower if it were me though.

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 05/26/2011




Why not?! I don't understand why not to throw a second shower? When was the first baby shower ever anything other than the celebration of a baby? Of new life? I don't think it was ever the whole celebration of fertility and simply the fact you are starting your family?????? Anyway, I would DEFINIATLY do it, who cares. What sort of 'tradition' do we really have here in America anymore anyway?! I mean come on - all is lost lmao

Vicki - posted on 05/26/2011




I didn't have a shower as such, I had a morning tea with female friends and family. I specified 'no gifts' but suggested that guests bring a bead if they like. The beads were strung into a necklace that I wore until after the birth. I would do something similar for baby number 2.

I did it that way as we really didn't need much stuff. My parents had already bought a car seat, I had bought some slings and cloth nappies and we had plenty of hand me down clothes. My baby boy didn't need anything else.

Victoria - posted on 05/24/2011




I didnt have a shower for my 2 (had twins second time too). It was 2.5 years since last one and I felt that it was rude to ask people to bring presents for you again.

Jennifer - posted on 05/24/2011




I wouldn't do it. I would be insulted if someone who had a baby not long ago wanted me to come to another shower and give another gift, but that's just my opinion. I didn't have a shower for my second baby and they were 9 yrs apart.

User - posted on 05/23/2011




Im almost 20 weeks and my family WANTS to throw me one... they want to share in celebrating this baby like they did the first. I really think its unfair that only the first baby gets the attention. I didnt ask for one, but Im not saying no. Especially because my family wants nothing more than to throw me one.

Tabby - posted on 05/23/2011




my kids are 5 years apart. i have one boy and my youngest is a girl. i had a baby shower for both. i was told by my mom you shouldn't have more than one baby shower. but the times are different and there are people having a baby shower for every child they have. i don't seen a problem with it, its a celebration of the new baby.

Meagan - posted on 05/23/2011




I have heard that you only get one baby shower, but I have SEEN people hold one for each child. I personally feel that it depends on how far apart the 2 are. Clothing, toys, equipment, etc after a certain point becomes outdated, and a baby shower is meant to celebrate the arrival of a child. If your friend WANTS to throw one, then let her, but try to focus more on the enjoyment of a party surrounding the baby, than the gifts. If you make it more guest-centric and like an actual party, people are going to be less bitchy (per say) about it. I think MOST people are going to be far too happy about the new baby to care how many baby showers ya had though! XP Congrats on the new bundle!!!

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