IS it okay for a 2.5yr old to occupy themselves sometimes?

Adrienne - posted on 07/31/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




I feel like lately, my LO needs my full attention ALL of the time. He cannot go potty by himself, and does NOT want to play by himself, ever. How do I handle this? Should I be with him, offering him attention and play all of the time? Is it okay for me to set a line that he has to go occupy himself some of the time while I get things done around the house, or read a book for a few minutes? What do you mommies do about this?


Tamara - posted on 07/31/2012




Try saving some toys for those times you need him to play by himself...maybe a favorite truck or special movie or something that only comes out during the times you need him to play alone. Maybe even set a timer and let him know that until the timer goes off he needs to find something to do alone and let you take care of chores around the house. Once the timer goes off, you are no longer "off limits." Also, if possible, give him an activity similar to the task you're completing so he can do something along side you but not with you/requiring your attention.


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User - posted on 08/02/2012




I think that you should have your own space. Everyone deserves that!!!!!!!!!!! Try what the other posts have suggested and see if they work. I don't know if you are the sort of parent who looks for professionals who can help but the following website is great and the people who run it are fantastic!!!!!!!! Hope it helps

Tasha - posted on 08/01/2012




I think at this age they go through another spell of separation anxiety. But it is definitely okay for you to take time for you too. Just make sure he is safe and has what he needs (drinks, toys, a movie, etc) and do what you need to do. If he comes back before you are ready (I like the idea of a timer that Tamara mentioned) then send him back to what he was doing until the time is up. It's not going to hurt him in any way to occupy himself, it's actually beneficial to their development. Good luck!

Suzie - posted on 07/31/2012




Kids absolutely need a little time on their own. I'm not saying leave him for hours but you should be able to do the dishes while he "reads books" or plays with his trucks.... of whatever it is he would like to do. I would just tell him. Mommy needs to do X, are you going to play with this or this while I am doing X.

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