Is it okay to bath my son with his step sister ages 2 and 3?

Summer - posted on 09/01/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My son is 2 and my step daughter will be 3 in november, we also have a 4 month old daughter. I married her father last year, but we have been together for a total of 3 years. We used to bath my step daughter with my son together, but then her mom said we should quit due to her own reasons. The main reason that she constantly points out is because my step daughter has now become curious about body parts. I do not see anything wrong with it because we raise them as if the are brother and sister, not as if they were not related at all. Also because they are so young i do not see any harm in it. my step daughter always tells me she wants to take a bath with her bubba(my son) and play in the bath with the boats and other bath toys we have for them with her bubba. They see each other naked anyways if we bath them separate, since they always want to be where the other one is, especially if my husband is not at home and out of town for work because i am at home with all three of our kids. I will respect her moms request even if it makes bath time a little bit longer for me. I just wanted to see what other moms opinions were.

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Maggie - posted on 09/02/2011

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Well only you and your family can decide if you will bathe them together over if your step daughter's mother minds. I know she is the mother, but you also have to do what works for your family. You have three kids, I can see that separate bath times might be a little hard to arrange.

Vicki - posted on 09/02/2011

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I agree with you. Curiosity about body parts is normal and healthy and will happen anyway. I don't see any reason why they shouldn't bath together if they want to.

She is her mother so I guess you have to respect her wish but I think she's wrong :)

Maggie - posted on 09/02/2011

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I don't see a problem. They are young and it is normal for them to notice and comment on differences. You can just say, "Yes, boys are different from girls." They shouldn't be ashamed of their bodies.

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Your step daughter would have become curious about body parts any way. It is part of her age and completely normal.
There is nothing wrong in my opinion with children that young bathing together. I would go with about age 4-5 before discouraging them bathing together, but really let the kids decide.
As you already stated they see each other naked anyway, so just bath them together.

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Norma - posted on 06/23/2014

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WOW that sounds sick ,she must have severe problems...I KNOW that some moms seperate them at the early ages of 7,8,or 9 ,but why ,for what purpose ...I am a single young mom,with several kids up to 11 yrs,and a lot of times we all bathe to-gather in our own hot-springs.

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i don't see a problem with it. i bathed with my brother until i was 5 and he was 2. kids aren't interested in body parts in a dirty way, and it's not unhealthy to see a close relative naked while supervised by an adult. but you are right, since she is the child's biological child you should respect her wishes

Summer - posted on 09/02/2011

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Thank you ladies. I'm glad I don't sound crazy thinking it's not a big deal bathing them together.

Summer - posted on 09/02/2011

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That's my opinion too. But her mother is completely against. I don't know all her reasons why but she keeps using her daughters curiosity as the main one.

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