Is it rude to put your childs size of clothe and shoes on his birthday invitation?

Christina - posted on 02/09/2011 ( 17 moms have responded )

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Is it rude to put your childs size of clothe and shoes on his birthday invitation? and ask for a gift receipt. He is a big boy. Last year he got so many clothes that did not fit and alot of the same toy.

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I don't think it's rude. I have all of our closest friends and family come, so they know how I am. Someone once bought our 13 month old 6-9 months clothes...so I think it helps people that don't know what to do. I would feel bad if I bought a useless gift for someone. You can even put a littls printed slip inside that says something about how you don't expect gifts, but that for people that are interested, so and so is their favorite character, they wear this size blank, or they prefer this color. It depends on who you invite, but I don't think it's rude.

Krista - posted on 02/09/2011

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It's considered poor etiquette to make ANY mention of gifts on any sort of event invitation, unless you are requesting that no gifts be brought. You're asking for their presence, not their presents.

A more subtle way to get the word out is to have a close friend or female relative listed on the invitation as an alternate contact for RSVPs or questions. Then, make sure that she knows all of those details about sizes and receipts. People might not call you with those questions, as they wouldn't want to ruin a surprise, but they'd probably call her to ask if she knows your son's size.

And if you still get some duplicates or some things that don't fit? That's life.

Amanda - posted on 02/13/2011

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I don't think it's rude at all. I did the same thing; I might not have thought about it, but I have a friend who always likes to buy an outfit and a toy for kids. Like you, my son is an awkward size-his torso is long but his legs are short. I put on the invitation something like: Gifts are not necessary, but if you choose to get Daniel one, he is wearing a size X top and Y bottom. We look forward to having you at the party. You know, something that lets them know you are trying to be helpful and not clamoring for gifts. Only the one friend bought him clothes, but she bought the right sizes! :)

Ashley - posted on 02/09/2011

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Me personally. I dont think so. My daughters birthday is in summer so I know most of my family and friends get her clothing so i put it on there. its kinda a FYI in case they chose to buy anything, and most people dont RSVP to a birthday party.

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Melissa - posted on 02/13/2011

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You can make a wish list for him at toys r us or target and include that information on the invitation

Lindsay L - posted on 02/12/2011

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No, I don't think it's rude if you ask in a nice way.
For Ex you might put something like this:
The theme of our party is Thomas the Train.
He like clothing size 3t, and any of the following toys,
blocks, balls, trains, anything bob the builder, etc, etc,.
Or if know who is coming you can register your birthday ideas at a store so you know what he is getting.
Just a thought & just my opinion. I hope it helps! :+)

Jessie - posted on 02/11/2011

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I keep an updated Amazon Wish List for my kids with ideas of stuff we need and stuff we just want for them. The grandparents know it is there when they need ideas and otherwise I have been tactfull to say, we really like this outfit, but it is too small or too big, would you mind either exchanging it for me or giving me the gift receipt. I know anyone who has given us a gift is on as tight a budget as we are and would rather get us something we can use.

Charlee - posted on 02/11/2011

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I guess I would want to know who you are inviting. If it is close family and you know they will be purchasing gifts....I don't think it would be rude to add a little note that says gifts are not required, but if you will be gifting....please note sizes.....

I know that I have asked family for college donations or clothes that are NEEDED. I don't feel I am cashing in on the birthday, but making sure we are all spending money wisely and in the most useful way.

NOW....ON THE OTHER HAND....if it is everyday friends or kid class mates...I do not even mention gifts.

Tonya - posted on 02/11/2011

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I invite the whole family to my daughter's birthday parties, some people we only get to see once or twice a year because of scheduling conflicts or travel issues so I see no problem with adding gift suggestions & clothes sizes in the invitations. I always state that they are suggestions & not expected. It helps those who are uncomfortable calling to ask what she needs have some ideas.



Now a days some people even set up registries at stores for birthdays & add that into the invitations.

Jessica - posted on 02/09/2011

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Since we always invited family, what I would do is tell mine and the kid's father's Mother's what their sizes were so they could tell anyone who asked. I also included all my contact info so if anyone wanted to ask me directly.

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most people who want to buy marshall clothes ask me his size he is way bigger for his age than most kids and as for double ups marsh only got one at christmas and that was solved by giving one to his father for his place. i think its extremely rude to put it down on an invite and if my child were invited he would either not be going or going with nothing but more than likely not going

Jessica - posted on 02/09/2011

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i would. but i would also add as a note that you don't expect gifts. i know exactly what you mean! people have given me clothes that i can't use, and i have no idea where they got it from! i end up regifting or donating it. if he is little, i would see no problem with it.

Krista - posted on 02/09/2011

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Oh, just to add, that the only other time it's socially acceptable to mention gifts on an invite is if you're asking people to make charitable donations in lieu of gifts.

Now obviously, if you're talking to any of the guests and they ask about gifts, it's totally fine to indicate your child's size and preferences. But yeah, to put that right on the invite does look like a rather crass attempt at a gift grab.

Alyssa - posted on 02/09/2011

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What kid wants shoes and clothes for their birthday!!!!!!!

I once got an invite that suggested gifts and whilst i'm sure it was "convenient" I did feel it was very rude and made me feel like the parent was cashing in on their childs birthday......

Danielle - posted on 02/09/2011

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I agree with Krista.
What we did is make sure family members knew what size our son fit, and just requested that family members get things like books and clothes.
I always put on invitations that no gifts are required.
I don't want people to get the idea that I am only interested in them buying my son stuff.

Kim - posted on 02/09/2011

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I agree with Krista. If they want to get him clothing they will ask for sizes. It;s poor taste to ever allow guests to think that you expect gifts, they are just a plus to a day of celebration.

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