kids fights

Salo - posted on 08/01/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 33 months and 17 months old keeps fighting for toys, cookies, mobile, ipad, etc almost every hour of the day. I've become so frustrated that I yell at them almost every minute and have started hitting them. But regret about it later. I've become patience less. But I really want to be patient and gentle towards them which seems impossible to me now. I would really appreciate if you advise.

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Salo - posted on 08/01/2013

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Thanks so much. I'm a little relieved after reading your posts.i will try the same.

Chet - posted on 08/01/2013

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Partly, it's their ages. It really will get better. We also have kids that are very closely spaced. Our girls are 16 months apart and our boys are 17 months apart. It does get better.

Chet - posted on 08/01/2013

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If you have toys or items that are absolutely guaranteed to be fought over put them away. Put the ipad and the phone away out of sight if they do nothing but cause fights. When our kids were little sometimes the toy doll stroller just had to go away for awhile because it was too hard to share, especially when friends came over and three or four kids wanted to use it at once.

Chet - posted on 08/01/2013

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Try doing things together where there are no toys to fight over. Go to a playground, sing songs, read a book out loud, play hide and seek, go for a walk, dance to music, etc. It can help a lot if you get involved and sort of lead an activity rather than letting the kids play on their own most of the time.

Chet - posted on 08/01/2013

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Encourage cooperative play, and teach them about sharing without making them take turns (turn taking is something else to work on later). Show the kids how you cut the cake into pieces so everyone can have a slice. Point out how this is a big container of crayons and we can all share and draw together (make sure you have doubles of colours). Try not to get upset when the fight try to show them that there are solutions instead - one child wants the blue block that the other child is holding demonstrate how we can dig through the box and find another blue one just like that one.

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