My 14 month old little boy is hitting

Sheri - posted on 03/25/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 14 month old son is starting to become very aggressive with my husband and I what can I do to get him to stop hitting? Is this just a phase?

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Irenegrigas81 - posted on 10/08/2015

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Hello lady's this is the first time using this websit so I'm not sure if I'm doing this right. Well my 1 year old is slapping me right in my face an stop an look I say nothing just move his hand away then he will slap me again. I don't know were he gets it from because my husband an I are very affectionate in front of him we only show him love we don't yell fight in front of him so I don't know where he gets his temper from I need help to try to stop it's not getting better just getting worse he does it when he's tired or when he doesn't get his way I don't know what else to do. FIRST CHILD!!!!

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Dina - posted on 03/25/2009

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My 18 month old is going through that stage. Usually with his older brother, but sometimes with me and his dad. When he hits his brother I of course tell him no and make him "say" sorry (usually it's sawee, lol) but when he hits me I say ouch and pretend to cry. That usually gets my point across. He looks at me startled then hugs me. I then explain to him that he hurt mommy's feelings and tell him not to hit. It's seemed to curb it a little bit. Don't underestimate the power of distraction, that's also something that's worked for us. Timeouts at this age are not uncommon either. Hope this helps!

Cindy - posted on 03/25/2009

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Hi Sheri.

My 17 month old daughter does the same when she wants attention or wants something. I was watching a show the other day that recommended that when they try to hit us that we just grab their hands and let go when they pull back. We have to do this continuously until they realize that if they want freedom of their hands then they need to use them positively. This is somewhat of a phase because they don't have the vocabulary to express themselves, so in turn they hit. I also tell my daughter that it isn't nice to hit and that I don't hit her so she shouldn't be hitting me. They understand more than we think they do so really we just need to talk to them and try to figure out the issue that is making them hit us. I personally don't believe in hitting her back when she hits me, it kinda defeats what we are trying to teach them. Some people use time outs but after a while the timeouts won't work anymore. Just try talking to him and help him understand that it isn't right and try to start giving him the actions or words he needs to express himself efficiently. That is just my suggestion. I wish you all the best! Take care and good luck.

Kristin - posted on 03/25/2009

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Oh gosh, I know this can be tricky. I think it is a phase, our 18 month will do it occasionally. We try not to react strongly, since any strong reaction seems to encourage it. We say "no hit", "we like to be nice to each other" and pat him gently( showing him what TO DO). It is difficult, because at times he thinks its funny, and that's frustrating. Sometimes I do leave the situation for a minute and say "mama doesn't like hitting" or a simple "ow"
hope this helps! I think it's an ongoing process. I've read that they can't control their impulses at this age, so there is a chance that they can be shamed easily, which I want to avoid. I usually end a situation like that with "it's okay, I know you're still learning." or something and move on quickly to something else.

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