My 19 month old is a psycho! I don't know what to do anymore?

Amie - posted on 08/28/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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She can go from hugging you one second then pull away and slap you or bite you or pull your hair. when shes angry she will hit who comes near her or even if you look at her while she's moody she will scream and try and bite you and if you don't let her bite you or hit you she gets angrier and starts biting herself. she throws things at you. we have tried to smacking her (gently) and say no! that's naughty that hurts mummy! she doesn't care she does it more. please can someone help???

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Chantàl - posted on 09/01/2013

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It happens. When my daughter used to do that I firmly told her 'NO' told her what was wrong and put her in timeout explaining why I was doing it and if she did that again she was going to get a spanking and timeout. After a week of testing it out she stopped and only occasionally does it when someone else takes her stuff but i keep with the firm tone and she knows she doesnt want a time out or spanking so she shares and is nice. Keep up with it and hopefully your little one will learn to be gentle and nice. To anyone who has anything negative to say about spanking keep it to yourself. I spank, I don't beat.

Gena - posted on 08/29/2013

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It could also be a phase that she is going through.And its irritating for a small one not to be able to communicate.My son went through that biting phase when he was about 14months old after he got bitten by his friend at his first bday party.He also started to hit when he was 2 but only the neighbors girl because she is older and when they were playing she would take his toys and he didnt like it and wasnt able to comunicate.I told him it is ok to be angry and that he must say no!It stopped when i didnt allow him to play with her anymore and now he has started to talk so i guess it was also just a phase.Tell your daughter it is ok to be angry but instead of biting,hitting,pulling hair she may stomp her feet.

Amy - posted on 08/29/2013

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19 months old usually act out because they lack the ability to communicate effectively. Start teaching her some sign language so she can communicate needs and wants to you. Also try to ignore the behavior as much as possible. Obviously if she's hitting biting you say ow that hurts and then walk away. You may want to consider having her evaluated by her pediatrician.

Cmoline32 - posted on 08/29/2013

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Obviously I don't know the entire situation you are in, so I am just throwing out ideas.
Just wondering, are there other issues at play here? Something that is out of her control? Possibly: fighting, divorce, starting new daycare, a new baby, etc. Just wondering if this is the only way she can show her upset or frustrations at something she doesn't know how to deal with? can't use words to express her feelings to you?

If not, it sounds like she needs a good set of household rules/boundaries to follow. Do you implement time out? I didn't think it would work for my daughter, but it has worked like a charm from the beginning. Biting and hitting are not acceptable and she goes straight to time out, etc.

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Denysse - posted on 09/01/2013

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sometimes my 2 yr old has " phsyco" moments , the good thing is that every time before I spoke to him I would breathe in & out really deep infront of him so he could notice, so now when he has these moments we breathe together it takes a lot of patience it didn't work the first couple of times.but I kept trying at least 1month1/2.when he gets in stage 2 psycho I put him on time out until it passes when its stage 3 I just hold him even if he is trying to bite, hit kick I still hold him until it passes with out telling him its all right or anything just a little bit when I first hold him then when its all over I show him all my love, it takes less timefor him to calm down now .I share my expirience with u.maybe one of these techniques can help u.tit takes a looot of patience . u can do it! goodluck :) p.s. distraction helps too.

Tanya - posted on 09/01/2013

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I don't think you should call ur child a physco ???? But all children go through this stage they grow out of it soon and become so loving my daughters are 2and other 1is 4 months an my eldest went true this

Gena - posted on 08/29/2013

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And i dont think your daughter is a psycho;-) Toddlers go through so many wierd phases..just always remember it wont stay like this forever.She will learn how to deal with anger if you teach her the right way.

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