
Ashley - posted on 07/02/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )
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I have been single mother to my two year old son and am now seeing a new boyfriend for the last three months. My son is so used to only me and now every time hes around my bf hes clingy and refuses to be more of an arm length away from me which is not normal for him. If i leave the room he follows if i go to grab a jug of milk from the store he screams till i get back. My boyfriend is really trying he trys to play with him get him what he wants but my son wont except anything from him. What can i do my boyfriend thinks he hates him but i think its just because hes not used to anyone but me especially a man. My bf has a two year old daughter but she has no problem with me shes the opposite where shes always near me and asks me for stuff and thats hard because he dosent understand why dev wont except him. Any idea what we can do this cant stay like this there both miserable and it hurts me to see my family so turned up.
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Samantha - posted on 07/03/2010
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I have been in this exact same position, my son was almost 2 and he would scream if i left the room or if my boyfriend put his arm round me or anything, just encourage them to do more together, your son will get use to him, my little boy and partner are inseperable now, it took them nearlly 6 months, so just hang in there.
Kali - posted on 06/14/2012
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I have the same problem. My son just turned two and I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months. My son will follow me around Everywhere and will wine and cry if my boyfriend gets close to him. My boyfriend will babysit him while at work and claims he does a lot better when I'm not around at all. My boyfriend still continues to try do things with him to spike his interest but we find a lot of difficulty. My son clearly does better with the family when we are outside. I recommend using this summer as we are, as a sort of therapy for him by bringing him outside with the whole family many times to show him the fun we can have. He already seems to be improving. One thing that helps me get through this is reminding myself tht when he can talk it will be a lot easier on everyone.
User - posted on 07/07/2011
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Ashley D, if u r still having this issue, I WOULD LOOOOVE TO EMAIL U TO TALK ABOUT IT FURTHER...??? We cud exchange ideas!!! I have sooo much I want to write to let u know what I've tried so far..reply n let me know if u'd like to correspond, then we can just delete our responses with the email addresses if u like!!?? If not, NO WORRIES EITHER!!!
Theresa - posted on 10/04/2011
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hi.i have the same problem nd it get discouraging.shell go to her fathers parents ndcome back with the worst attitude nd will hardly let him by her. weve also been together 3 months jus make sure he doesnt give up on the child.nd like the person said dont give him attetion evertime hes mean cause to a toddler sometimes any attentions good attention.lemme know if u found out nething new that works.im still strugglung
Raynae - posted on 07/08/2011
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My daughter was around a year when my boyfriend and I had gotten together, she is now 2 1/2. I wouldn't say that she hated my boyfriend but she was definitely not liking our affection towards eachother. She was always trying to get in the middle of us. We basically just let her work it out on her own, it took a while, maybe almost 6 months before she was completely comfortable. We now are a family of four, he treats her as his own, and she loves him to death. I say have your boyfriend bring him suprises every once in a while and continue to try and play games with him, and just give it time, if he is a good guy then things will work out.