My 2 year old is fighting me to put his clothes on and off and throws a complete fit. What do I do?

Gennel - posted on 01/22/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )




he tells me no I do it anyways but then he throws a bigger fit and I don't know what to do, i have tried everything and I am very frustrated this just started about a week ago and it is getting even worse


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Julie - posted on 03/22/2018




Seriously? Your advice is giving a two year old a choice about what they will or will not wear? The tantrum they throw isn't about which outfit you have chosen for them to put on. They are throwing a fit because you are telling them its time to do something and in that moment they simply don't want to do it. So who is really in charge here? If you can't get a two year old to do what you say its time to do you need to rethink your approach....I never "ask" if they want to get dressed, or go to bed, etc. I simply tell them its time to do the thing. There are other things to ask if they want to, such as what activity they would like to do. But there are some things that are simply non-negotiable, especially with a two year old.

D'Etta - posted on 01/25/2011




I hang my son's clothes in outfits (the pants are on the hanger, with the matching top) I find that since he can pick the outfit, he's more willing to let me help him put it on. He wants to assert his independence, so if he's not quite ready to do get dressed on his own, find other things he can do so he won't feel helpless all the time. To get dressed, usually he can put his shirt on while I do his socks, or he can pull up the zipper and I can do the button, etc. If you let him help you with things (carry in groceries, do laundry, etc.) he will be more likely to let you help him. Good luck. :)

Cara - posted on 01/25/2011




At that age I would get two outifts out and then let them pick which one to wear. By three they would pull a shirt out of the drawer and then I would give them a choice of two pairs of pants. At four they pick out their clothes the night before and as long as we are not going to church or a big event, I keep my mouth shut even if it doesn't match.
He may just want independence. Give him choices and let him dress himself with a bit of help. See if it helps.

Allyson - posted on 01/24/2011




I'm going through something similar with my 19 month old.. she wants a specific pair of "jammies" and we have to work out a time where it's okay to take them off.. and it's freak out time if they are too dirty for her to wear them to bed. So far my solution to getting her changed in the morning is letting her wear her jammies for about 1/2 an hour to an hour before getting her changed. If its a work day i just change her clothes right before we leave and I make a big deal about what she gets to wear.. like "oh look at this shirt with the monkeys you get to wear," etc. See if getting excited about the clothes works.. i don't know.. If she starts having a meltdown on me I just leave her out of her clothes, put her on the floor and walk away, then she usually calms down and lets me dress her. I hope some of this helps! Good luck! Hopefully this is just a phase hey?

Casey - posted on 01/23/2011




Must be a boy thing cause my son is the same he would much rather be naked then wear clothes, but I usually lay out a few tops and bottoms for him and make him choose and when he picks something I make a big deal out of it and tell him how awsome he looks and what a good choice he made :)

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my son has done it pretty much ever since he was born. i have kind of given up with dressing being pleasant experience. i do find he throws less of a fit if I distract him with something, let him get dressed standing up, and let him "help" get himself dressed

Nichole - posted on 01/22/2011




My son prefers if I help him do it himself... So I let him try to put on/take off each article of clothing, until he says "tuck" (stuck). My boy is 16 months.

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