My 3.5 year old is having serious temper tantrums! He's getting abusive. HELP!

Jennifer - posted on 04/24/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




My 3.5 year old has NEVER transitioned very well. He's got some slight cerebral palsy, but I don't know if that has anything to do with his behavior or not. He is my only child currently, and I work full-time. With his current attitude, I'm honestly considering selling my car and getting rid of any and all 'extras' so I can stay at home and focus on this issue he is having. (Is this a good idea?). Anyway, he got a new teacher at day care and his dad has started working night shifts so they don't get to see each other. My son been peeing in his pants every day, even though he is fully potty trained and has been for about 8 months. He also has had a serious attitude problem. He is punching me in the face, and spitting at me (I'm afraid he's going to start doing it to other people). He also screams, hits his head on the wall/floor, and is completely inconsolable. I literally have to hold him down with another person to calm him. I don't know what to do. Is this normal behavior for a three year old? I have tried several different forms of punishment. Timeout does not work, as he does not care. Spanking does not work, he just tells me to leave him alone. I try very very hard not to raise my voice, I have tried negotiation (Which worked until recently), and I have also tried taking away all toys and movie time. Everything is getting out of control. Advice?? Please don't flame me. I'm doing the best I know how.


Anita - posted on 04/26/2013




First and for most you need to walk away when he is behaving that way because he will learn nothing if you don't. Second, breath it is going to be okay. He is not used to you being gone all the time so that could a problem. I know that you gotta work so it is understandable The change at the center could be a BIG problem because children do not do well with change and I would be talking with the teacher to see what is doing at school. I know that this is not an easy thing and as a teacher trust me it is very scary but we always reinforce the rules and then if they are good they get a sticker or something at the end of the week. I really wish I could be more helpful but I can't right now so good luck.

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