My 3 year old grandson still pees his pants

Zenobia - posted on 06/17/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




My grandson is 3 years old and he has been potty trained for 3 months. He is so good, since then he has not peed the bed. What is bothering me is that when I pick him from daycare most of the time his pants is wet with pee. I have spoken with the daycare provider and she thinks Chance is stressed; but when he is home as I mentioned before he does not even pee the bed and if he has to go he will ask one of us to take him to the bathroom. When he doesn’t get his way or when he is upset about something he pees his pants. I would like to find out what can I do to help him. Could there be something serious that is going on at daycare?


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Lisamarie - posted on 06/19/2012




My daughter is 5 and still has accidents, I personally wouldn't worry too much. Check out the daycare, make sure they are letting him go when he needs to and that no bullying or anything is occurring. I have spoken to teachers, doctors and my daughter but no-one has an answer, we just get through it the best we can. Good luck :-)

Brittney - posted on 06/18/2012




My daughter had a short phase where she would pee or poop her pants for attention. However, Ruby isn't even close to being 3 yet, so maybe you can talk to him and ask him why he pees his pants. Does he wear underwear? If not, maybe he thinks its okay to pee in them. If he does, maybe the providers aren't taking him enough or he isn't asking them.

Jenni - posted on 06/18/2012




My son went through a phase that whenever he was put in timeout he'd pee. I eventually figured out that he'd get grumpy and get into trouble because he was holding his pee. It'd make him grouchy, he'd act out, I'd put him in timeout and while he was crying about being in timeout... he'd pee. So I quickly learned to cut right to the chase, at the first signs he became moody I'd tell him we have to go use the potty and take him there. Problem solved.

My nephew (4 yrs old) and SIL were over and the kids were playing in the pool. My nephew started acting out and my SIL gave him a talk and put him in timeout after a warning. He was clearly VERY moody. I suggested that he hasn't been to the bathroom in awhile and perhaps he needed to pee. Sure enough he did! And was in great spirits afterwards. So even when young children are fully PTd it doesn't always guarantee they will tell you when they need to go. He may still need gentle reminders from you and his daycare provider to use the potty.

I think when they are upset about something, they're likely not paying attention to that need to go urge. So for now, I'd suggest "scheduled potty breaks". As in; you taking him to the washroom when you feel he hasn't been in awhile. If he does have an accident handle it very nonchalant, no punishing or getting mad. If by chance you have in the past this could be exasperating the issue. I would also hope that his daycare provider isn't getting angry or punishing him over accidents.

You can have him help clean up the mess with you so he is aware of it and doesn't ignore it but do so without showing anger/disappointment or as a punishment. Just say calmly: "Oops. We've had a mess. We'll have to clean this up. Take your wet clothes off and put them in the laundry sink. Put on these dry clothes. Ok, now come and help me clean the pee up with a paper towel."

I imagine it will just be a phase and will pass within a few months. So in the meantime, just be careful that you are not giving him the wrong kind of attention for it and I would ask the daycare provider how she handles it when he does have accident.

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