My 3 year old wont act right any more. Help!

Kimberly - posted on 03/07/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Ok my daughter is 3 she is a good kid when she wants to be but thats not very often, she dosnt respect me, and if i get on to her it dosnt fase her or she will scream and keep on screaming I dont know what to do any more its driving me crazy and im getting realy stressed out she dose this at homw and in public. And shes out of pull ups but she still wets the bed Im scared to put her back in pull ups at night again becuse the put realy bad bumps on her but bumbs like boils and it hurts her, im also eire about it because I dont want her to start going backwards in the potty training. Please Help Me?!?!?!?!?!?

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Kortney - posted on 03/08/2012

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Glad you are taking in the advise. Kids are not easy, especially when it is your own. I have a four year old and he has his moments as well. To tag on to your last comment... recognize when you are feeling frustrated and why. Take time to step away when this happens. Know the difference between your emotional response, as in frustration, and when it is your daughters. This means (and can be difficult) to be the parent when she is upset. Like you have noticed, the yelling feeds into her feelings and increases behavior, making her feel small and more upset. When a child is out of control and testing you, they are testing your ability to "contain" and keep her safe as her mother. She may need to you to affirm the boundary more of who is in charge in a firm and calm manner when she has a temper tantrum such as setting a time and place to act out, ie. bedroom/out in the car with you when in public. It is hard, but the work is worth it.

Christy - posted on 03/07/2012

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My daughter wet the bed every night until she was 4 1/2-we used diapers b/c they are so much cheaper than the pull up kind. She also had lots of temper tantrums-yes you have to walk away, or tell her if she is going to behave that way she needs to be in her room, sometimes if they are limited in where they can be it can shorten it some. Also I will agree with Kelly about quality time it's a biggie-its easy to get caught up in housework etc, but all those thing will wait, spend time with her first, you may be amazed at the difference it will make. God bless you.

Hollie - posted on 03/09/2012

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Kourtney is right. I'm a single mom of 2 children, ages 6 and 9, and we've been through alot. I am a yeller, but find that if I manage to contain my emotions instead, I get MUCH better results. Easier said than done, but it CAN be done and you won't feel like a bad mom for screaming all the time. Good luck! And know that others are right there with you!

Katherine - posted on 03/07/2012

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I have a 3 year old too and she does all of those things. I put her in time out and if she won't sit there, I hold her there. If she doesn't pick up toys they go away. If she screams, I walk into another room.



I think 3 is worse than 2!

Kelly - posted on 03/07/2012

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I had a similar problem with my 3 year old. It turned out to be a few things. Red food dye in her diet turned her into a very naughty girl, so no more pink milk/icecream, and def no cordial or red sugary foods are allowed in my house. Second, I found I was always yelling at her. "Stop" "dont to that" "No" ect. My husband noticed and made a suggestion to sit and chat with her, praising good behaviour with things like " I love your manners" " Youre so clever with your counting" ect. Suddenly when mum wasnt always yelling at her and we started having real quality time together, her behaviour improved dramatically. We still get tantrums occasionally, but not like how it was. As for the pullups thing, it could be the pullups themselves. We use nighttime nappies on my daughter, but she is pottytrained during the day. The Health Nurse said this should continue until she is nearly 5. Its normal. Good luck.

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Kimberly - posted on 03/08/2012

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Thank you all for the good advice Im trying my best but it just seems like shes just getting worse. this might sound wrong but it feels kinda nice to know that im not the only mom out there with a toddler that dosnt listen to me and every thing you all seem very nice and all of your advie seem very help full i do yell alot maby i should chill out on it a little bit its just realy hard when you get so frustrated and every thing.

Amy - posted on 03/07/2012

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I'm not really sure what she's doing attitude wise, I can tell you that when my youngest almost 2 has a tantrum I simply walk away and ignore her. My 6 year old when he gets mouthy or worked up he gets sent to his room till he calms down and then we'll talk about whatever he wanted but we only talk about it once he's composed himself.

Kimberly - posted on 03/07/2012

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Thank you Amy for the advice any advice helps im a young mom and shes my first even though i have neices and nephews iv helped raise its kinda different with your own im just trying to figure out the best potty training ideas because she wets the bed every night, And im still worried about her attudide she acts like a 15 year old girl i love her to death but it drives me crazy when she acts like that and its an every day thing....

Amy - posted on 03/07/2012

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Your daughter will stay dry at night when her body is physically capable of staying dry, there is nothing you can do to potty train her at night. When her body is ready it will happen, it's normal for kids to still have accidents up to the age of 8. As a matter of fact we just had this conversation with our pediatrician for our 6 year old son. He asked if he was having accidents at night and we let him know 3-4 times a year he still has an accident. He let us know that was completely normal. If pull ups give her a rash just put an overnight diaper on her at night, it's not going to cause her to regress during the day if you put a diaper on at night.

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