My 3 yr old refuses to talk at daycare. wht do I need to do


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Judi - posted on 05/13/2014




My 4 year old daughter doesn't really talk. She is a only child and watched by mom who doesn't really speak English. She spoke more when she was younger. She's active and listens to commands but when she's around other kids she plays parallel and doesn't speak when spoken to I'm getting worried. I enrolled her in preschool for Sept and hoping to keep her in camps throughout the summer. My doctor says she's fine and has no developmental issues since she reached all her milestones. But I get so worried and frustrated she's behind. Any advice for a first time mother :(

Steffani - posted on 09/17/2009




When my kids start MDO every year they are like little clams. They don't want to really talk to anyone. They just need time to get used to the situation they are in. That may take more time for your daughter and that's no big deal! Just keep acting really positive about it and encourage her to talk to the other kids. I always talk with my son for a while after he gets out of class and I asked him if he made any new friends. He actually said, "no mom, I don't know how". It's funny I never thought to tell him how to start talking to people. So I said, first just ask thier name and what they like to do for fun, what's thier favorite super hero, ect. Like other mothers said, you know she talks so there is really nothing to worry about!

Stephanie - posted on 09/17/2009




Some people are just shy. Let her warm up at her own pace. As long as she is talking to you then there really isn't a problem. Just explain to the daycare people that she is really shy. If you are concerned, maybe set up some play dates where she can hang out with kids while you are around. This might make her feel more secure with talking around other people.

Vanessa - posted on 09/17/2009




my step mom had a cousin that honestly never even talked til she was 7! and then one day boom she talking up a storm. Honestly, if your child doesnt feel comfortable enough to speak @ Day care.. not a big deal. You know that she can talk and thats what matters. Its not a behavioral thing. I say doing worry about it!

Kourtney - posted on 09/17/2009




She talks up a storm at home and ont eh way home from daycare. Do I need to worry about this or just wait for her to start on her own.

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