My little girl is 7 months - everyone is asking me if she is sleeping through the night??? But she is actually sleeping and waking up 4 times - am I doning something wrong - can I please get advise on sleeping habbits???


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you poor thing, you must be exhausted!

my daughter (now 14 months) went through a similar stage at the same age. we sorted it out by gradually decreasing any overnight feeds (don't worry, if they're well established on solids, they'll just compensate by eating/feeding more through the day if you let them eat as much as they want).

then, once we knew she wasn't waking because of a nutritional need, we'd go in to her room to tell her everything was fine, but didn't pick her up. we'd try to leave it about 4 minutes between goings in so that she knew she wasn't being abandoned, but she also knew that it was staying in bed time. after 2 nights of this she slept through from then on unless she was sick or teething.

some books/experts recommend different variations of this approach. we had a little bit of trouble at about 10 months again, and used supernanny's recommendation to start with 1 minute, then double the interval between goings in each time (i.e. 1 min, 2 min, 4 min, 8 min and so on). if it is taking more than 45 mins total for the kid to go to sleep then something is likely wrong (it is good to check thoroughly before you start). we were pretty desperate and it felt like we were being mean, but lily was still happy during the day and the situation resolved within 3 nights. supernanny (jo frost) says this is fine any time after 6 months, but we only heard of it when we had problems at 10 months.

we haven't looked back since. lily now sleeps from 7pm to 7.30am every night. from time to time she'll wake and need me in the night (she drops her teddy out of the cot sometimes and calls me to get it for her), but she goes back to sleep as soon as i give the teddy back because she doesn't need me to hold her or feed her for her to be confident in her own ability to go back to sleep.

every kid is different, though, and every parent is different and i strongly encourage you not to do anything that you don't feel right about. i wasn't sure it would work but i was desperate enough to give it a go. good luck, i'd love to hear how it goes!


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Melissa - posted on 03/11/2009




My dd didn't sleep through the night until she was one and still at 2 wakes up and gets in bed with me. I know you are exhausted. Try letting her try to go back to sleep each time she gets up. 10 minutes or so is a good amount of time to wait. She will begin to realize that you are not going to come every time she gets up! Good luck to you!

Julie - posted on 03/11/2009




My son was 11 months before he finally slept thru the night. I don't know if this is what helped or if he just finally started sleeping all night but, I put a bottle in his crib with water in it. The bottle was usually empty in the morning. However at 7 months I don't remember if he was picking up his own bottle yet or not??? It's hard, I know! But eventually it will end. Hang in there. I would also suggest that you give him a protien for supper. I think that sticks with them longer. Good luck!!

Crystal - posted on 03/11/2009




My son is 4 and a half months old and has been sleeping throug the night since he was about 3 months old. I keep him on a schedule, he has dinner about 6 every night, then sometimes takes about a 1/2 nap. Then he plays, then takes a bath about 8 every night, then we play some more and then he has a bottle with formula and cereal in it at about 8:45 and is asleep by about 9 and sleeps until sometime between 7 and 8 in the morning.

Both him and my daughter which is now almost 7 both slept through the night, i kept them both on a pretty tight schedule, i did not ever keep them out late unless it was unavoidable and as long as they were on their schedule they did very well and were very happy and content babies.

Hope this helps!!!!

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It can have to do with formula vs breast-fed, too. Breastfed babies will tend to wake more because their bodies process breast milk so much faster; formula keeps them full because it stays in their tummies. But like others have said - you know your baby best and other people are just being ignorant thinking that a 7 month old baby should be sleeping through the night unless there's a problem! That's not to say that a 7 month old can't be trained to sleep through the night, but it's a question of what's best for you both. My older son didn't sleep through the night until I stopped nursing him at 13 months. My goal with the little one (now 4 months)  is to get him to do it once he's well established on solids (hopefully around 6 or 7 months) using lessons I learned from the first. Such as - it's really hard for them to sleep through the night if they nurse and are in the same room, because they smell you and it makes them hungry! Imagine that? Anyway, best of luck. It will all work out and you will eventually get a full night's sleep. :)

Jayme - posted on 03/10/2009




um just to let u know i went through it too and i tried putting some water in a bottle and therefore she didnt want it and in a couple of nites she didnt wake again but u know ur baby more than anyone else but its worth a try anyway good luck...

Shauna - posted on 03/10/2009




Don't worry about it.  My son didn't sleep through the night until he was almost a year old.  I felt bad when people asked me if he was sleeping through the night because he was waking up at a minimum of 6 times a night.  He finally started sleeping through the night about a week before his first birthday and has slept through the night every night since, of course, with the exception of being sick.  He is almost 2 and we rarely have a night that he is up. 

Julia - posted on 03/10/2009




Every baby is different. You know your daughter better than anyone else. So don't worry about anyone else. As soon as I got my kids falling asleep on their own, they started to sleep through the night. With my son, I started at 6 months and it took awhile. But my daughter I started around 3 months. She is 6 months old and sleeps through the night. Now and again she will wake up because of her diaper or not feeling well or she is hungry. I believe because I have them fall asleep on their own, it helps with sleeping through the night. When they do wake up during the night, they can sometimes get themselves back to sleep.

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Hi. Every baby is indeed different. There are so many factors it could be. My sanity saver wes to have mental list what the factors could be and go through it.
Sometimes it's just comfort. My girl still has her moments and she is 15 months.
This is one of my favourite parenting sites. and Don't know where you are from but sites are from Australia but it's loaded with health and development information.
There government runned sites as well.

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Every child is different... My son was 13 months old before he really started sleeping through the night. He is now 28 months old and still wakes up some nights. Growth spurts, teeth, noises, smells, hunger, diaper.. all kinds of things can wake a baby up

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sorry, i didn't read properly and missed that you were saying that other people are asking you... i totally agree with brandi, if you're happy with what's happening, then it's none of their business. so sorry!

Brandi - posted on 03/10/2009




I think people ask that dumb question because they can't think of anything else to say. Some babies wake up at night until 18 months! My little guy needed the extra calories at night until he was nine months due to his aggressive growth ( he was 28lbs by 8 months old). Do what's right for your baby and don't worry about the people that can't come up with a more orginal question to ask the mom of a baby!

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Hey each baby is different and you need to decide what you feel is right for your child but what i found was the cause of my babies waking up through the night was they werent getting enough to eat to fill thier stomachs to last the whole night is she eating oatmeal in her bottle or spoon feeding sorry for going on and on just been there done that and understand that mommies need their sleep!

Kim - posted on 03/10/2009




One of my friends just went through this.... we told her to just leave him for 10 minutes and see if he settles himself!

When she wakes up does she want a feed? If not she is probably just disturbing herself!

Good luck and I hope you get some good sleep soon!

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