My screaming 21month old son...

Naomi - posted on 12/22/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




Just here recently about almost a month now my son who is 21 months old has got to where he screams. He screams when he wants something, is mad, or just because he doesn't get his way.. I think he learned it from his sisters they like to scream when they play sometimes. He's learning to talk, but he prefers to scream for something then rather to ask for it. Please help! We've tried spanking, and taking away,but it's not working... I don't know what else to do....


Vanessa - posted on 12/05/2012




Hello, My 21month old son is starting to scream all the time! Like a girl even in stores. dont know what to do or what he wants.

Rikki - posted on 12/22/2009




yup, just ignore it...if you react with anger or frustration you are not teaching him anything. My daughter did that for a little while too.. she did it out of frustration before she knew the words for what she wanted (still tends to screetch once in a while) but I just quietly and calmly tell her (in between breaths) to use her words or "show mommy" what she wants.

Also, if he's screaming for ...his cup..and you give it to him...bad idea.. Pick up what he's screaming for and say that he can't have it when he's screaming...etc.

good luck and be patient...if you feel like you're about to lose it...YOU leave the room for a minute, take a breath and then come back when you're calm.

I know exactly how you feel... stepped out the room too many times to count.

Jennifer - posted on 12/22/2009




my 22 month old is the very same! my only advice for this is to ignore the child, it takes my daughter about 5-10 mins of screaming and us completely ignoring her and she stops moves on to something else, and its over, it does take alot of paitence for this but it is well worth it, i would never recommend spanking for screaming, they are learning to talk at this age. they are just in that learning stage, and they only know what you've taught them. you can also try time outs on a step or in the corner, if not for anything else just to calm him down, make him give you a hug after wards and move on eventually he will learn to be calm and ask for things in the right way. hope this helps, happy holidays


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Naomi - posted on 12/26/2009




Thanks everyone... I was hoping I was right on the ignoring him.. My husband says it's like nails on a chalk board... I told him we just have to give him Time. I think once he learns more words he won't be so mad... I had a feeling it might be due to him being upset because he can't find the words sometimes... I feel better knowing I'm not alone in this... :-)

Michelle - posted on 12/22/2009




Just ignore it. Completely. That's what we do and it cuts WAY back on the fits from my 19 month old. As soon as he starts screaming we give him one warning, and then leave the room until he stops.

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