MY SON HATES ME - 15 MONTHS OLD

Sahana - posted on 08/08/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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MAMAS,

Please help me. My son is 15 months old and almost from the day of birth he has not shown any preference to me. If his father is around, he doesn't want to stay with me. If i want to carry him or play with him, he runs to his father. When I am back from work, he has no reaction. ( i work 2-3 days in a week).

I am so guilty and miserable. I am doing my best. I am spending a lot of time with him. I even breast fed him for 6 months. I had a difficult delivery so couldn't carry him a lot for about 9-10 months. Is that the reason?

What mistake am I making? I am dying each day mamas - please help.

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Sarah - posted on 08/12/2016

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It will come. I have had two daughters who have done the same, but instead of dad it is me they prefer. My youngest is also 15 months. She does the same things. Sometimes it is ok for them to cry and be with the other person too. But it does come. My other daughter is now 5 yrs old and has no issues going to either one of us and will prefer one over the other at different times, but it goes both ways.....preferring my husband sometimes and prefering me sometimes.

Sahana - posted on 08/08/2016

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Thanks Sarah...

You are right, when you say, " You may find that if your husband is not there or in eye sight he is fine with you."

But on weekends when dad is around or situations when we both are doing something for him, he expects to be with his dad or in his arms.

I feel it's because I don't carry him as often and try to be strict with him sometimes. Is this feeling a sign of post-natal depression.

HE has never shown any preference to me in 15 months! That's the saddest part

Sarah - posted on 08/08/2016

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You are not doing anything wrong. Some kids just have a preference. Sometimes that preference also changes as they grow switching back and forth. Just keep doing what you are doing with spending time with him. It can help to have some of that time be just the two of you where your husband is not around. You may find that if your husband is not there or in eye sight he is fine with you. When your husband is there try doing some games like peek-a-boo where one holds and the other plays and then you switch rolls. It will come just give it time.

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