My son is 2.5 now and i am 6 weeks pregnant again...I am so confused can i take care of 2 kids almost the same age??My parents helps me a lot with the kids but still i am not sure what to do??shoul i keep the baby or not??God please forgive me but i am all alone..dady does not help me it all he is just there.I need some advice pls...


Medic - posted on 03/08/2012




That is no where near the same age. I have a 3 year 4 month gap between my kids and they are in totally different worlds and it is rather easy.

Louise - posted on 03/08/2012




This is a good age gap and you will cope well. If you are really unhappy with being pregnant and do not want another baby then this is time to decide what to do.

Sit down and talk things over with your partner.

Elaine - posted on 03/09/2012




You can do it! I have 4 kids. 3 boys and a 5 year old little girl. They are ages 21, 18, 13, and 5. Its hard but try to involve you little one in the pregnancy. You might be surprised at how much of a help he will be. My oldest was a major help when his brother was born. He was 3 and told everyone that was his baby, LOL! He wanted to help with diapers, bedtime, bathtime and everything. Just take it one day at a time. Some days will be harder than others but it will be twice the love.

Deborah - posted on 03/08/2012




Calm down. you're fine.

It's pretty normal to freak out about taking care of two kids. I did the same thing when I found out about my son, and my daughter was 16 months old. My son was born a few weeks before her 2nd birthday.When your new one is born, your current tot will be past 3... My daughter is a HUGE help with her little brother now! She will get me diapers, check on him for me, help me find his sippy cup and everything!

At first it WILL be hard, but it gets easier, that I can promise you. And the bond they'll share is just precious. My daughter has yelled at me for disciplining her little brother (no i didn't let that 'fly', but it was still cute.)

So yes, freaking out is normal, but my son and my bun will be about the same distance apart as your son and your bun... the only thing I"m scared of is that my 2nd will be like my first (he's a little terror!)

Eventually you'll like having two kids, because they will entertain each other and it's so much fun to watch them.

Jessica - posted on 03/08/2012




My kids are 17 months apart (23 months and 6 months old) and, while challenging, I love having them close in age. Your kids will be over 3 years apart - get your older child interested in the baby and they can be your helper. My eldest is a huge help and he truly enjoys the baby. All children are blessings! Good luck!


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Sarah - posted on 03/08/2012




I think this is something only you can answer. In some ways this is a natural question many people have when they are expecting their second. There are many people that are afraid they won't be able to meet both kids' needs. Sometimes it is just putting one foot in front of the other and doing it and having that reassurance that you can. But sometimes it is a real and valid question. If this is where you feel you are at I would encourage you to talk to a crisis pregnancy counselor. They will help you look at what life will be like parenting two kids and what things you will need. They can also help you look into adoption and the many different types of adoption.

Gabrielle - posted on 03/08/2012




My kids are 20 months apart. It is hard at times but it is worth it. I love my babies. I don't believe in the "A" word. As long as you have SOMEONE there to help you out you will be fine.

Ashley - posted on 03/08/2012




My first two were 3 years and a month and a half apart. I am about to have my third while my youngest is a year and a half. Their father was not very hands on and he didnt help much at all either. My oldest loves to help out with her sister. Just try to involve him with his little brother or sister as much as you can from the beginning. Ask him to get you a diaper at changing time, let him watch you make a bottle, show him how to play peek-a-boo and little games to interact with the baby. Let him watch you make the bottle and little things of that nature. Yes, sometimes he will get jealous (as all siblings do) from the attention being taken from just him to this new bundle of joy. It will be trying at times but know that it does get easier with time. It can definitely be done, I was 19 when my second was born so I was young still but we are making it as a family.

Michelle - posted on 03/08/2012




My 2 oldest are 2.5 years apart and my ex husband didn't help out much either. He preferred to go to the pub with his mates instead. I coped and then was a single mother when my 2nd was 12 months.

Your 2 will be over 3 years apart and you may be amazed at how the older one will want to help out with his little brother/sister.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/08/2012




they are hardly the same age..sorry but this is my opinion

I have 3 children 5,3, 9 months...there is a 2.5 year gap between each of my daughters. It can be done.

My mother was a single mom of 4 children after my parents divorced. Believe me it was like she was all alone because my father rarely visited with us and never helped with anything.

You can do it.

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