My son is a year and 9mnths and he gets into everything?

Ashton - posted on 07/23/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




He dosent know when to behaive or when to stop. It's like i have to tell him more then 4 time's to stop. And at time' he throughs a horriable fit about the dumbess things sorry i had to put it that way but there is no other way to put it. What should i do he out of control and i know he's only a yr and 9mnths but i know most babies that do behaive and mind there moms and Im a single mother what should i do?


Lisa - posted on 07/24/2010




It doesn't matter if you work or are a stay at home mum, what matters is consistency. You and your mum need to agree to follow the same guidelines for his behaviour and at times you will have to do the same things over and over and over and over!! If he learns that the rules are the same every time he will learn to deal with them..Also make sure that your expectations are realistic...Some things are better put where he can not get to them. Don't have precioius or dangerous things that are irresistable to little minds and hands where they can be accessed. One of the beautiful things about toddlers is their curiosity and this is how they learn about the world. If it is safe to do so consider letting him explore/experiment with things or provide things he can experiment with or explore that are safe. The other thing is to ensure he is getting adequate attention and stimulation - this can be very draining and exhausting but is also VERY rewarding and they are really only little for such a short period in the big scheme of things so don't get too "busy" to spend time with him now and then regret that when he is 15 and too busy for you!! :)


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Amanda - posted on 07/25/2010




If my son (he's 2) doesn't do as he's told, like if he throws his toys after I have told him no I give him one warning that if he does it again I will take the toy away. If he throws it again I will remove the toy from him and he wont get it back for the rest of the day.

Jeneva - posted on 07/24/2010




I'm with Lisa on this one completely. The biggest thing is making sure you and your mom are on the same page with your discipline. He may be throwing the big fits with you because he normally gets it from grandma. Or he may just be looking for your attention even if it's negative. At that age you can start time outs for hitting and other negative behavior but really, don't expect much change right away. Consistency is KEY. Also positive reinforcement. Only hearing "no" and "stop" and other negative things will not help. Try and say "good job" and "good boy" and other things like that more often than the other (although I do understand how hard that can be. My son is the same age).

Ashton - posted on 07/23/2010




I' am not a stay at home mom. I work and I dont get off til" 5-530 so my mom has him during the day. I'am a single mom and yes! i do take the stuff he gets into away but he throws a fit and when i pick him up he slaps me in the face or he throws his head back towards my face. And then what i do is put him in the playpin and let him scream or i just give him the bottle yes he still takes the bottle i cant get him off I've tryed and its to hard especially when you work 5 days a week. So please HELP ME ASAP PLEASEEE MOMMY'S SEND YOUR IDVICE TOWARDS ME TODAY..

Kimberly - posted on 07/23/2010




Be Consistent! If it takes more than 4 times than you just have to keep doing it. When he throws a fit about it, pick him up and put him somewhere (like the middle of the floor) & just pretend you're ignoring him & wait out the tantrum. My son is 19 Months & I'm a Stay at Home Mom. When he reaches for something he knows he's not allowed to have, it takes me about 1-3 times.. sometimes more for him to back off and go to something else. Sometimes he throws a fit and I just move him away from whatever the problem was and wait out the fit. Does he have scheduled naps and bedtime? Tiredness could be the reason for the fits or hunger (needing more snacks) or could just want attention. Take anything that he always reaches for out of reach or sight. There a table in front of the tv (because my son likes to touch & hit the tv sometimes) & he likes his snacks on that table. I have no coffee table and the one end table I have are behind the two arms of the couch/love seat so he can't really grab anything off it. I know how stressful it can get but consistency really does work. Good Luck!

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