my son is five years an still wont sleep in his room what can I do ?

Jenna - posted on 03/06/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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my son is five years old an has had trouble sleeping in his room since he was two. its to the point know were he never in there an doesn't even want to play in his room alone. he has night lights at night an sometimes I even put the light on. an still runs in our room all night long. then during the day he doesn't want to play in his room alone, I leave his door open an tell him if he needs me im right in the other room. what can I do to make him feel comfortable . an wanting to be in his own room an have his own space? it will be good for him an for his dad an I if he sleeps in his room an plays in there little bit so I can have 20 min to myself.

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Elizabeth - posted on 03/06/2012

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Well, what's good to know is that ..it can be fixed! YAY!



The problem with kids is they are incredibly smart. They know what buttons to push and just how far they have to push you before you give in (that's if you give in just once).



I'm warning you now that it will be exhausting for a few days but it will ultimately work if you DON'T give in. Every time he comes to your room you get up put him in bed.



If he keeps getting up you sit at the door of his room and don't make eye contact and put him back in bed gently without talking. (the first time you put him back ..tell him "it's bed time you have to sleep in your bed" the 2nd time "it's time to sleep in your bed" and then NO more talking for you) ...



the first night it may take 30 minutes of him getting up ..you putting him back..before he falls asleep. The next night you do it again and sit outside the room and it will take less time. The next night he may not even get up because you have now set a standard DO NOT give in..because he will know that he just has to push you more to win.

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Elizabeth - posted on 03/08/2012

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You are welcome...BE STRONG!! hold to your convictions and it will work. You might want to quit because you are tired and you feel he is so so upset but in the long run it is better for him to have two parents who have a great relationship to model. Also, you need your rest to be a good mom ...a patient mom.



Here's a supernanny video I just found of just what I described that may help you.



click play on the video once you go to the website



http://www.supernanny.co.uk/TV-Show/Clip...

Jenna - posted on 03/08/2012

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cassy , thank u for your advice. I have tried that an in the middle of the night hes running back in my room

Jenna - posted on 03/08/2012

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Elizabeth , thank you for your advice I'm going to start tonight. His pediatrician said the same thing but felt to guilty doing it . But for a mom to say it makes me more helpful, i'm going to have to let u know how it goes Im giving it a wk of me doing it,

Cassy - posted on 03/08/2012

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idk if this will help but with my kid we would put him to bed in our bed and then when he was completly asleep we will move him into his room in his bed and give him a sock monkey that he hugs so he thinks its us and a pillow on his side he thinks its us laying by him

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