My son just started daycare and seems like he is a whole different child!!!

Jenn - posted on 08/14/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




He used to sleep really well. Had small temper tantrums. NOW...he screams at night. He isn't getting much sleep at all. He wants to be held all the time. Waking at 5:30 in the mornings. And his temper tantrums are so awful. We are thinking that it is the transition from being home with me to daycare as I am back to work now. I feel so bad for him. And very guilty for going back to work. His daycare ladies are really great and chat with me everyday when I pick him up to tell me how he did that day. I am just very stressed that he won't adjust and be sad all the time.


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Gina - posted on 08/15/2012




I'm sorry to hear this! I have a 2.9 yr old boy, he is in his 2nd week of Preschool and it's also my first time going back to work and he's always been at home with me and no other caregivers besides Dad and grandparents. Well my experience has been a little different, my boy actually sleeps much better since he started Preschool, now he sleeps through the night ( I guess he's more exhausted than usual), I have noticed he does have alot of temper tamtrums, when he doesn't get his way he gets very upset and when I yell at him he now imitates me and gets more upset, he does want to be carried and held more than before as well.

So what I'm thinking is that the tamtrums and the wanting to be held are normal because now he wants reassurance and misses that connection with you, but I would be concerned about his lack of sleep, he's obviously anxious with all the changes that are taking place. I would advise you talk to his Pediatrician about it asap, if he's not sleeping well he will be 2x's fussier and more reluctant to go to daycare the next day. Does he nap at daycare? if he's not napping well that could also contribute to him not sleeping well at night. Whenever my toddler skips a nap he wakes up screaming in the middle of the night as well, they call it "night frights" the cause is not completely known but it has been linked to lack of propper sleep and exhaustion.

Maybe the daycare workers can agree to hold him and spend some extra time with him during nap time until he settles into the new routine. If he has a special blankie or pillow he can take to daycare that could also ease him a bit.

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