My three year old and his recent temper tantrums...

Tiffany - posted on 06/28/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




I'm a single mom & my son turned three in May. Just within the last week he has started acting out. It seems like the fits are pretty severe and I'm not sure what to do when this happens. Raising my voice, time outs, taking things away, just talking to him, compromise & scolding doesn't work. It seems like he just goes into another world and I don't know what to do about it. Were also working on potty training, he was progressing really well... I had him in underwear and now he has totally lost interest. He gets upset and cries now every time I take him into the bathroom & no longer tells me when he needs to go. I don't want to force him and risk him being traumatized by the experience. I have family members judging me on his recent outbursts so it's making me feel like I'm not doing such a great job as a mom. So hopefully someone out there has some suggestions for me on how I can better handle this situation! Thanks :)


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Armanda - posted on 07/01/2011




Hi Tiffany,
Have there been any major changes in the last few months? How are his communication skills? My son had horrible tantrums for months because he wasn't able to express himself. We put him in speech therapy, and as soon as he was able to let us know what he wanted, the tantrums stopped. Is it possible that he has a bladder infection? Maybe he doesn't want to go potty because it hurts. You could always go to the doctor and get him checked out just in case.
We had the most luck just ignoring the tantrums, hard as it can be. I did do as Constance suggested one time- just threw myself on the floor and had my own tantrum. He just stopped what he was doing and stared at me! Was kinda funny! Good luck to you!

Shalaina - posted on 06/28/2011




My son has fits like these and he will be soon turning two. What helps him is for us to walk away (if in a safe place like inside our home, yard, etc.) He calms down quickly since his fit isn't getting him any attention. Time outs help us a lot also. Not sure what the fits are about but if it is because something he wants but can't have redirect his attention, etc. Nice to know we don't have the only kid who has a meltdown, haha! Oh....ours is a scratcher, too. Trying to break him of that habit.
Can't help you with the potty training! My son was doing well when he was around 18 months then we moved and he doesn't do it at all. So, I'm feeling you for that, too!

*Please do ignore others who criticize you for how you raise your child.
Plus, you must be a great mom if you are searching help from others! It takes a village!!!*

Audrey - posted on 06/28/2011




is there something going on in his life that could be causing this? some kind of change? if not, im guessing its just him being 3. my son turned 3 in march and for a month or so right after his bday he kinda went wild. i just continued to discipline in the same way i had been(with more frequncy, of course) and it wasnt too long till he calmed down and it got easier. i understand the frustration you are feeling though. as for your family judging you, ignore it. if they want to say anything negative about the way you are trying to handle him, tell them they can have him for a week and see how easy it is. you sound like you are trying your best. i just wouldnt be too...i dont know...understanding of his fits. thats not really the right word but what i mean is dont stand there while he is having a fit ad ask whats wrong and how he is feeling and all that. be firm and make it very clear that this behavior is not acceptable. hope this helps, and good luck.

Constance - posted on 06/28/2011




One word of advice ignore your family members. I am sure that ay of their kids aren't perfect little angels. Don't let them get to you.

Do something hapen to him in the bathroom? If you can figure out was has frightened him then he should calm down. As far a tantrums his is 3. It is normal. But work on positive make a behavior chart and catch him whe he is being good. When he has a tantrum ignore him don't pay him any attention. You can have a quiet place for him to sit in when he is throwing a tantrum. Some place where he can't get hurt but where you can take a deep breath. Everytime you react he is getting what he wants your attention. If you don't acknowledge him no matter how hard he trys then the tantrum will fade rather quickly and overall they will stop sooner because he isn't getting attention. If it is one of those crazy toug days then tun into a kid yourself. If he is throwing a tantrum and you are ready to throw him out the nearest window.LOL Join him stomp your feet lay on the floor have a full fledged tantrum with him. One he will stop and look at you lie you are completely nuts and 2 after you do that you will feel more relaxed. Screaming therapy woeks wonders.

Just ignore other people but if you are anything like me smack them off the holyer than though additude.

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