My two year old is .....

Anita - posted on 04/01/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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hitting and screaming a lot lately half the time there is no reason for it and so I am not totally sure what to do. She has just now began going with daddy the schedule is a little confusing but all will be okay. I thought it was that then I realized that she was doing the hitting and screaming before that. So got any ideas how one I can handle it and two how to get her to understand that it is not okay. Please help thanks

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Anita - posted on 04/04/2013

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Stacy,
I could not have said that any better then you did. You made my night.
anita

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Im glad its going better for you! lol I def know that it can be tough, I think thats why God made mothers as we are, no matter how crazy life can be, we always have that strength to pull through for our family!

Anita - posted on 04/03/2013

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Stacy,
Thank you for the advice. I have been trying to regulate the schedule a little better this should help big time. I have been doing one two three and your in time out her dad agreed to follow through with this as well so far it is going a little better.
anita

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mine is 25 mo and lately he has been trying to hit and say no. Our schedule actually has been of lately and my mom has been watching him more often. My nephew has been coming to play with him and I know this is were hes getting it from.

But now he is really beginning to test us (like I thought he was before HA!) and doing these things. Thankfully he is also learning what time out is a does not like it. After the first warning "if you do that again, youll go to time out" he wont try again for the most part. If he does I follow through on his second attempt, I stay very strict on this, because he is learning well that if mommy or daddy, whoever is watching him, doesnt do what they say they are he know he can get away with stuff.

When he was younger and he did a behavior that wasnt harmful but wasnt appropriate like hitting his toys purposfully on the couch, etc I ignored it because I knew he was doing it for attention. But now I know he knows what hes doing and likes to try to get away with things. So I have to be very firm with him, discipline wise. I catch him immediately when hes doing something bad and remove him from the situation or remove it from him and explain why he cant do it. If he trys again, its time out for a couple minutes.

I havent had to deal will full blown tantrums yet, but I have heard if they are continually screaming hitting at you and wont stop whatever you do to just drop them off in their crib/room, somewhere safe, and let them be for a minute until they calm down. Then go in and talk it over.

My best advice make sure you change your tone when disciplining. I dont spank (one of the reasons) because if you are telling them to not hit, and then you spank them, youn are doing what you just told them not to, they dont understand and get confused by this. Stay very firm and follow through with your warnings and to stay consistent. If you can catch them right when they are doing or about to do it, and keep on them they will learn they wont be able to get away with it.

Good luck! This is such a fun time, but very testing at the same time!

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