My two year old is obsessed with mommy and only mommy. How do I break this needy behavior?

Mellissa - posted on 09/25/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




My daughter just started school this month and now every other day its just me and my two year old son at home during the day. I think he's starting to get too attached to me.. doesnt want anyone doing anything for him but me. Won't let my husband change his diaper, put on shoes, get him a snack, anything response is mommy do for anything. And last night my husband had his hand resting on my leg and my toddler flipped saying my mommy no touch... To the point where it was a melt down, I'm 12 weeks pregnant and now afraid of what's going to happen when the baby comes. I need to get this resolved before the baby comes.... Any suggestions ladies ?? Plz help



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Alejandra - posted on 09/29/2012




I went throug a similar situation with my 4 years old daughter and also be en pregnant of a right now 15 months old baby Boy. The thing I did ven if I was avaible was sal muy husband ti share the book story ta nigths, talue Her out to ThE park and always speak about The Baby who was living into my belly....when ThE time comes and. We had the baby at home was easier for Her to understand that mommy has to take care of the baby and also dad was even more fun that mommy...

Al so when the kids start school with all this change make them more baby and want more mommy for attention because is too mucho time forma them without seeing you that miss you so much...even having good time at school...that be hace is normal útil they understand that no matter what mommy will be there for me....

Tami - posted on 09/27/2012




I went through something similar with my daughter. Daddy wasn't allowed to touch me and if she saw us kiss my daughter would climb up and try to get in between us. her father works long hours. so for a short period she wouldn't even say hello to him. she would hide behind me like he was a stranger. We nipped it in the butt though. You have to handle this right away. My daughter would go in time out when she had a melt down and we explained to her that mommy and daddy love each other its not okay for her to act this way. If your son only takes things from you. try having dad give him something. if he doesn't take it, he doesn't get it. tantrums are only allowed in the house when my daughter is in time out. so i put her nose to the wall every time she starts. and she'll scream hit the wall but she gets her frustrations out as well as being punished and she now tells us when she is done freaking out Good luck!

Amy - posted on 09/25/2012




It sounds pretty normal to me. If you are doing something just let him know your busy and daddy will do it for him. It may upset him but eventually he'll understand that you aren't available right now. My daughter wants her father to do everything for her (when she doesn't want to do it herself), she also will become possessive over me if I'm hugging her 6 year old brother, it's very normal toddler behavior.

Chaya - posted on 09/25/2012




I'm not sure he's ready for preschool, but that will be an option next year if not this, or simply play dates, even just taking him to playgrounds with other children. I've never seen an indoor playground, but I hear they exist in snowy climates, that may be an option too

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