Naps

Ashley - posted on 01/17/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )

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My son is 2. And he doesn't nap even though he NEEDS it. He is so cranky ALL the time. Any suggestion on how to get him to sleep more? He is extremely active.

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Emily - posted on 01/20/2011

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I would lay down with my toddler and say "you don't have to go to sleep, but we do need to lay still and rest for a bit." Most often than not she would fall asleep (along with me too). I think the trick is to be consistant and don't budge. Give yourself a time limit, mine was an hour. After an hour of "resting" if she hadn't fallen asleep, then we would get up. Good luck!

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I drove my girls (who decided they wanted to quit napping at 2) to sleep every day for 6 months. It was way better than the fight we were having cuz they were NOT ready to quit napping.

That probably isn't exactly helpful, but it's all I've got.

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Michelle - posted on 10/15/2013

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With my little ones, we have a mandatory nap time after lunch. Once the child has moved out of the crib into a regular bed, I put them down in the bed and sit with my back to them reading a book. If the child tried to get up, I just said, "It's nap time, lay down," and helped them lay down. Just a day or two was enough. (I have six children. The younger two are 3.5 and 15 months.) My three year old has always been a snuggler so he loves it if I rub his back while he falls asleep. They get to stop taking naps either when they go to kindergarten, or when they can last all day without having a meltdown w/o a nap regularly.

Katie - posted on 10/08/2013

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I used to do "quiet time" with my daughter around that age. I told her she could look at a book or color but she had to stay in bed for at least 45 minutes. She didn't like it at first but after awhile, she took to it and that was all it took to zap the afternoon cranky-pants. She's 7 now and still sometimes we have her do quiet time because even older kids get over stimulated (she's a boarderline "HSC"). I also used quiet time for myself at the same time (I am a HSP) though it was hard to not want to do laundry or clean the house during that time. I found that if I took quiet time too, I was better able to handle my daughter when she was cranky.

Tracy - posted on 10/07/2013

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I have two girls. One is 4 and the other will be 5 on Saturday and I babysit for the neighbor's 5 year old also and I can get all 3 of them to take anywhere from 2-3 hour naps. You can't make them sleep but you can make them stay in there beds. Set a timer for 30 minutes or an hour and tell them they are not allowed to get out of bed until it goes off. Tell them they do not have to sleep. Tell them they can stare at the wall, the ceiling, the floor or whatever else but they can not get out of bed until the timer goes off. If they get out take away a privilege or do a time out. Make sure the room is dark and quiet and conducive to sleeping. It took me 2 days to get the neighbor girl to start taking naps. Her mother up until that point had not been able to get her to take a nap since she was a baby let alone go to bed at night and her school performance showed it. Once she started to take regular naps she did a complete turn around and really started to excel in school. Naps make a BIG difference

Natalie - posted on 10/04/2013

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I have 2 yr old and shes very independent lol They get to a stage where they don't want to nap anymore. I do quiet time with mine and she wakes up at 730/8am and goes to bed at 8pm. Their is rare occasions where she will have naps in the afternoon. Its a up hill battle, good luck

Meredith - posted on 01/27/2011

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my daughter is the same and she starts getting hypo if she is tired. basically we have to get her int he car nd drive, sorry not much help.

Jennifer - posted on 01/27/2011

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Yes Samanthat that is what I do too if she is tired she just rests (there has been the odd time she falls asleep so I let her - esp when sick or something). She usually goes to be at 7 and is asleep before 8 and then up around 7 o 8 in morn. I have a yonger one too that is always up at about 6am so I put her to bed earlier so at least I have some ME time in evening - lol.

Simphiwe - posted on 01/27/2011

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when he wakes up every morning make him run and play by the time he gets to bed he will be tired as hell or lie him on his stomach facing down that allows them to sleep more

Simphiwe - posted on 01/27/2011

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try and not keep him sleep around 4pm make sure he stays and goes to ned around 7pm in that way he will be tired as hell and will definatley sleep like a baby : )

Samantha - posted on 01/26/2011

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my son is 2 don't nap either.. he gets really crabby at times but i make him lay on the couch and watch some tv or read books with me, some down time so he can rebuild his energy.. he goes to bed at nine and gets up at 8:30.

Ellen - posted on 01/26/2011

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The warnings and making your child take a nap reallly does work if you stick to it. It does seem harsh at the time, but when your kid is not cranky later, it pays off.

Jennifer - posted on 01/25/2011

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wow maybe my 2 year old girl is the only 2 year old that doesnt nap. Somedays she gets really tired but I HAD to stop the napping or she wouldnt sleep at night (she has been a horrible sleeper since birth as is her 10 month old brother). She nows sleeps 12 hours straight at least 50% of the time I assume your son sleeps well at night though.

Julie - posted on 01/25/2011

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Such a tough situation. My son was this way from 18 months to 2 & 1/2 yrs of age. Once he was able to rationalize more we set up an "arrangement" that he was comfortable with that was also reasonable. He wanted to nap on the couch instead of his room and also watch a few min of one his shows and then fall asleep. He turned into a terror again about it 6 months later at 3.....so now I tell him to lay down for his nap, if he won't he gets a warning and I ask him to lay down again, if he will not he gets a 3 min time out and when it is over I ask him to lay down again and if he won't I tell him it's his warning again and if he doesn't he will lose his pre nap tv time and go back in the corner....it hasn't gone past that point in a long time but if it does it's back in the corner after every 1 asking and warning until he lays down and takes his nap...and once he is laying down he isn't allowed to get up until he has slept... it sounds harsh but as long as you keep a positive attitude about it and don't get angry at all it totally works.

Ellen - posted on 01/25/2011

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This is what happened with my 2 year old too when we switched to a toddler bed. She used to play in her room for quiet time, and eventually fall asleep, but yep that changed when we got the bed.

Ellen - posted on 01/25/2011

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My daughters are the same way. We have a mandatroy "quiet time" at 1100am every day. The TV goes off, toys are put away, snack has been given at1030, bathroom breaks are done. We put on soothing music & have my 2 daughters lay on the couch w/ small pillows, their stuffies and blaknets. We tell them they do not have to close their eyes unless they want to or they can when they are ready. My four year old lays and looks at books. My 2 1/2 yr old usually falls asleep after about 20 minutes. The only thing about this is that my 2 year old is very active too, but gets cranky if no nap. So we have to really lay down the law, (take away toys, favorite stuff...) if they don't lay down & listen. It is really hard, but it has worked.

Wendy - posted on 01/25/2011

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My son is now 4 and we found that he would only nap if he could fall asleep on the sofa. I think for my guy is that he wants to stay where the action is.

Kalpana - posted on 01/23/2011

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I think the rest and lie still idea is good!! i make sure the room is dark, heavy curtains, bolster, and i lie with him till he falls asleep. Unless even after an hour he does not want to then we both get up. It has worked for my baby. Try it.

I sometimes stroke his belly very softly, like a tickly sensation and he goes all quiet and drowsy. Or play with his ear or gently massage his scalp. Also gets my baby still and eventually fall asleep. he needs to be still first physically. that's when they will get the sensation to sleep. if he is always fidgeting or moving around, he will not get to sleep. trick is to make them go all still and quiet.

Candace - posted on 01/18/2011

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My 2 year old girl is also in a big girl bed now, and thank goodness I'm lucky enough that she still doesn't get out of bed unless I come get her..but just for a precaution we put a baby gate on the room..you can choose whether to leave the door open or shut, but then they still can't get out. Unless your boy's a climber then I think I'm tapped out of ideas...:o)

Jennie - posted on 01/17/2011

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Candace that is so true about the routine. Having three kids I had to learn the hard way and start a routine later with my little ones we have had the same routine for 6 months now and my kids are 5, 3 1/2, and 2 and the only one who had it down is my 2 year old . lol but its worked out so good. Kids know whats going during the day and when things will happen cause it stays the same. Now at first they acted out alot but once they noticed it wasnt going to change they started fighting a but but are getting the hint of when school is, lunch time, nap time, supper, bed things like that and it makes life so much easier.

Jennie - posted on 01/17/2011

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Hi Ashley, my name is Jennie. I have three lil angels my daughter Keegan is 5, my son Xavier is 3 1/2 and my daughter Madelynne is 2. Both my girls do pretty good with naps and well my son is the complete opposit lol. He never took naps nor did he really sleep at night and hes always been really active to. The doctors said he would sleep when he needed sleep. Well ok that didnt work cause nor me nor dad got any sleep. So we tried taking our kids for a walk out side before nap or bed time and that wore him right down and he slept like a baby. Now that was 2 years ago, now my son puts him self down for naps all by him self. Its amazing. Good luck lol! If your not able to take him outside due to the weather run around the house or put music on and have a dancing session with him so hes moving and getting tired sometimes that works to.

Ashley - posted on 01/17/2011

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He used to be on a schedule... Then we moved him to a toddler bed and that all changed. He used to even just play quietly in his room... Now that he knows how to get past the safety door knob thing he can get out of his room. Cause when he's in his room he knows that if he gets tired enough to crawl into bed. But that doesn't happen now that he can get out of his room.

Candace - posted on 01/17/2011

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This isn't a quick fix, would definitely take some work but what about setting a routine the same way you would for bedtime at night? For example, my 2 year old knows that after lunch we have a little quiet time (mostly Mommy waiting for her to do a #2 so it doesn't wake her up from her nap) either reading books or doing a quick puzzle then we head for a bum change and a nap. So if you do the same thing every day he might eventually be conditioned to get relaxed/sleep after a certain activity. Hope this helps!

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