Debbie - posted on 10/29/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )




My friends force their two year old to fall asleep when they want her to by spanking her. I have suggested quiet time to them and they are not interested. I am old now and never did this with any of my children. The child screams and crys whenever she is picked up from my home and I am just sick about it. Do you think that spanking into submission is correct?


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Gigi - posted on 11/21/2012




I don't think its correct at all. i am against spanking in any situation, but to spank for naps? Thats horrible and cruel. My daughter is almost 3 and she takes naps some days and some days not. Every child is different and some get the naps out of their system much earlier than that.

I'd sit down with her parents and talk to them and double check what's happening. I am not sure is there much more you can do, short of calling child services. I can tell you that my daughter is not happy to go home with me when I pick her up from school or such, but its clear she just wants to play some more and has troubles dissengaging herself from playtime. But she never screams in fear. Are you sure the child is afraid?

Amanda - posted on 11/20/2012




ok so first, when my son was about two months old to a year and half the only way he would fall asleep was for me to pat his bum. Before you go and call anyone make sure they are Spanking her and not bouncing her bum up and down. My son loved it and when he is sick I still have to pat his bum to help him sleep. It isn't really hard just enough to get his body bouncing up and down. Now that he is bigger it is a littler harder but it works. I am not saying that they aren't spanking her but make sure you get all the facts. Cause it sure looked like I was spanking my son but I was just bouncing him up and down. My mom did it with me and my brother and my sister in law and brother do it with their one and half year old. She may be tired and just can't fall asleep. Please get your facts straight because I went to visit my aunt for two weeks, she has in house babysitting, and the little girl didn't want to leave me and cried and cried when they tried to take her from my arms and she never did or still doesn't do that with my aunt.

Elise - posted on 11/04/2012




they need to be turned in to child services. it's one thing to give a little tap on the hand or on the tush for doing something they have repeatedly been told not to, but to make them take a nap... that's not right, and if she is screaming because she really doesn't want to go back to her parents some one should step in her her benefit and for your piece of mind

Stacy - posted on 11/04/2012




You need to be a good friend to that child and call dss. What they are doing is abusive and intolerable. Period.

Elfrieda - posted on 10/31/2012




No, it's not right. I do "force" naptimes on my almost-3-year-old (there was one battle where I used the baby gate to trap him in his room but since then he's been pretty cooperative), but I let him take two quiet toys to bed and he has to stay there for at least one hour. If he's still awake at the end of the hour, I go up and let him get out of bed and praise him for being obedient and resting. If he sleeps, he gets to get up whenever he wakes.

Rachel - posted on 10/30/2012




No, I don't think that's okay.

My kids all gave up naps by a year and a half. I wasn't happy about it but there wasn't anything I could do. If they aren't tired, they aren't going to sleep. If their child is sleeping, it's only from crying. That is just sad.

Amy - posted on 10/30/2012




I don't agree with spanking at all so I certainly don't agree with it because a child is refusing to nap. My daughter is 2 1/2 some days she naps but done days she doesn't she's growing our of it. I would think that by spanking you are just getting the child more worked up by causing them to be upset. If you've offered suggestions and the child acts that way when leaving you may want to reach out to child protective services or whoever is in your area to see what can be done.

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