Naptime/bedtime

Kristen - posted on 09/29/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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So my son has always been incredibly difficult when it came to routines, and in the past few weeks after talking to his pediatrician and looking for as much helpful information in books as possible we've begun an earlier bedtime and a mandatory nap every day. Before he was going to bed anywhere between 9 and 11, now he's in bed between 730-830.

The awful part thats really stressing me out is how badly he fights everything. Naptime and bedtime are easily a big fight that lasts an hour or more. When my husband goes in he can get him to go to sleep in MAYBE 15 minutes doing the same things. I'm SOOOOO frustrated and upset. We've been using the Baby Whisperer's techniques and they've for the most part been helpful, but they're barely working when I use them anymore and he's wearing me out to the point of frustration and tears. Anyone else been through this? I Just can't keep going on like this. Its almost to the point where I have to rely on my husband to get him to sleep because he fights it so hard and so long when I do it.

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Sam - posted on 12/03/2013

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I know this was a long time ago, but did you ever wind up finding something that worked? My son is 10.5 mo old and had a lot of medical issues early on that resulted in lots of napping in the chair with me (plus I work nights and that was the only time I got sleep!). During all this, he had no issues sleeping in his crib despite waking up to eat which he had to because of his medical problems. Well, we have moved past all of our medical issues and are now a rambunctious, curious, independent little boy who screams at naptime (2.5 hours the other day until I finally gave in and rocked him in the chair!) and takes an hour or more of rocking to get to the point where I can lay him down for bedtime. I've done the same as you Kristen and give him his cup and toys/stuffed animals and all he does is instantly stand in the crib and scream. He has a bedtime routine (not so much a naptime one but I will be starting that) and ultimately he's been getting one nap because I won't let him nap after 4 which is when he usually wants to or he definitely won't be ready for bed between 7 & 8. I am at a loss for what he needs and what I should try to do.

Kristen - posted on 09/29/2009

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Thanks for the thoughts :) I was pretty upset when I was writing this earlier so I couldn't quite put all of my thoughts together as well as I wanted. Basically here's our bedtime routine....he eats, he has a bath, we do pj's, we either try to read a couple books or we quietly rearrange Mr. :Potatohead's face. For naps I try to look for sleepy cues and I try to put him down between 11 and 1 depending on how sleepy he's acting. He also usually eats a banana and some cereal before this nap. I just don't know what it is, but when I'm putting him down he pitches such a huge fit. I've put a sippy of water in bed with him b/c he tends to get thirsty, as well as some soft toys but he ignores them and screams and throws a fit.

Christy - posted on 09/29/2009

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I think it is good that you are trying a routine, so that's a great start. My daughter is great with her routine and has been on a bedtime/naptime routine since she was 3 months. Other than the bath, the naptime routine is the same as the bedtime routine. It is really simple, she has something to drink, gets a story, a song, and then down. I usually tell her "nite, nite" right before I put her down for bed/nap. Now she is 19 months old and says, "nite nite" to me to let me know she wants to lay down. You can also try to wear your son out before naptime. Take him to the playground or outside for the morning before lunch, then feed him and put him down for a nap. Activity helps the little ones sleep better. It seems counter intuitive, but if your son starts to nap better, he'll start to sleep better at night, too. If he's about 1 year, he might be able to stay awake at intervals of about 3 - 4.5 hours, so, if he naps, know that it's not good to give him a nap too late in the afternoon, or he will still be wide awake when it's bed time. Also, don't make the nap too early, or he might get tired before you get a chance to feed him dinner. Now that I say all this, even though my daughter has been on a routine and does really well putting herself to sleep, she still occassionally fights. She'll go through a spell of a few days of fighting naps (normally doesn't fight bedtime, just naps). I just try to stay consistent and not let my frustration get the best of me. I just put her in her crib even if she is fighting me and tell her that it's nite nite time. She normally calms down 5 - 7 minutes later. I don't got check on her. I will end up leaving her in her crib (as long as she isn't crying as if something's wrong) for at least 30 min to an hour after she calms down so she at least knows that I expect her to have quite time even if she's not napping. Honestly, she ends up talking to herself or singing most of the while, but that's okay. Then, one day she just ends up going back into her normally routine again. I think that's when I resort to taking her to the park every day that I can and let her run. She is so tired after that, she doesn't have the energy to fight. Good luck!

Dakota - posted on 09/29/2009

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i think we have all went through this my daughter is now in a set routine but i didn not happen with out a fight. what i did was i would feed her dinner make sure she was full and give her a warm bath afterwords. . no playin while in the bath just a calm peaceful one luke warm water and some bedtime baby wash then i would put her in a diaper and some comfy pj's and lay her in bed and turn the lights off and slowly walk out. it worked for me and now she goes to bed on her own at night. . the naptime part is a little more tricky but i do almost the same thing as bed time i make luch and feed her then i turn everything off and lay her down children sleep better when they are full trust me. i hope i could help and you can get some rest. please let me know if this work.

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