Need Advice For 3 yr old

Single - posted on 02/17/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am concerned about something my son has started doing. It is just him and I in the house and there has never been any men around him. I have been celibate since he was about 1 yr old. He is three almost four now. Three times in the past maybe 6 months he has been doing sexually things to me while I was sleep. I usually sleep on my stomach and twice he has been either sitting on my butt slightly 'grinding'. Both times I told him it was inappropriate and unacceptable and tried to ask where he saw it or who he saw do that but he kept saying I don't know. Then a few nights ago I was sleep on my back sleep and he was rubbing on my thighs. Again I told him the same thing as before and asked the same question but he said I don't know. He has never been exposed to anything sexual around me and he doesn't go over anyone else's house and very few come over here. I am getting extremely worried, I don't know where he is getting him from or what to do about it. Any advice will be helpful, please help me. I haven't told any of my friends/family because I am a little embarrased. Please give me suggestions or anything. Thank you.

-Candice

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Jasmin - posted on 02/19/2013

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this is a very tricky one i can understand why you are worried, is it possible he saw it on telly? if not I would maybe when your both having fun and hes in a good mood and already talking to you you could try talk to him about it casually and just gently ask why he does it...maybe just ask him silly things to get him talking like...do you do it because you cant sleep at night? do you get bored? are you cold at night? just get him talking about it and try keep him talking until something comes out and keep your tone really normal be careful not to let your tonne give away that your worried or upset about this....other than that or though you would never want to think like this but has he ever been with anyone unattended? or has anyone stayed the night at your house?i think it sounds horrible but you need to really think were he has got this from. maybe its nothing but i wouldn't dismiss it. maybe you could google children's psychologists in your area and just ring and ask if they could answer one question for you regarding your son.they hear some weird stuff so don't feel embarrassed.

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Liz - posted on 02/20/2013

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My bet is that he is getting it from someone at daycare. Maybe ask the caregiver about some of the other children, and if any of them have shown any odd behavior. Just because YOUR son hasn't seen that on tv, doesn't mean one of the other kids hasn't.

Single - posted on 02/20/2013

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besides daycare he is never with anyone else. I don't have any family or friends where we just moved so outside of work, daycare, and maybe a few weekend outings we are home. He doesn't watch much television but when he does it's always nick jr or Disney jr. So I really have no idea where it is from but I will definitely take your advice on bringing it up in conversation that way. Thank you.

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