Need Advice Please!

Ashley - posted on 10/27/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




My son Jacob is 2 years old and my daughter Addyson is 8 months. My son has recently become very jealous of his sister. If Im holding her while he wants my attention or putting her down for a nap he has a meltdown.He gets extremely irritated when his sister has something that he knows is his. We never have problems when he is playing with other children even ones the same age as my daughter. I have tried everything and I am literally out of ideas. I feel like I am doing something wrong! I know a little jealousy is normal but I feel like it may be getting out of hand. Any Advice is helpful at this point!


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Katherine - posted on 10/28/2011




You aren't doing anything wrong. This is how kids react, especially the little ones.

Set aside time just for him. Play a game or my favorite, play with shaving cream and let him draw pictures. On paper of course. Fingerpaint, do something messy and fun.

Maybe your SO can watch the baby for an hour? It's really important that he doesn't feel left out. I know my 2 year old like to take her diapers to the trash. She puts them in a plastic bag. She also loves to read, do puzzles, play baseball (with a brush and soft ball) these are some things you can do with him.

Amanda - posted on 10/27/2011




When my daughter used to have her naps I would tell my son what was going on. I'd say mummys just putting Ashy to bed, why don't you choose a game for you and mummy to play when I'm done. Then I would spend however long the nap was for spending 1 on 1 time with my son while the little one was asleep. Once she woke I would tell him that I need to get Ashy up and that we have had lots of fun, just the 2 of us and that we can play again next time she sleeps.
My daughter was a super clingy baby, she's now 25 months and still has her moments. Even now when she wants to be held I will get my son to help me out. If she needs changing I will ask him to get me a nappy or wipes to help me like a big boy or sometimes he likes to sing to her.
Keep him involved so he doesn't feel left out

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