need help going mad!!!!

Nicole - posted on 08/27/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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ok, so i know some moms are going to give me a hard time but at this point i dont care. I need help im already betting myself. so my son is 4 years and 5 mnths and i honestly dont know what to do with him or me !!! i come to the point were im acually yelling at him when he doesnt knoww something. and i hate that im just so worried that hes slow and what if he is a little slower i should be ok thats fine but i feel cheated and find myself asking WHY ME, when i see other kids doing to Much more then him i also hate this and i dont know how to stop this. so why do i think hes behind well here it goes..... Tonight i asked him to identify is name and trace it he did then i tell him to point out each letter he did then i pointed to the letter J and asked him what letter this is and he says something like S when he just pointed out that is a letter J why would he d that ??????????? other things are that he still doesnt know his abc song and i sing it to him daily and he only knows how to count to five... he doesnt reconize all his letters .... please help is my son behind and if so how can i deal with this and accept it i LOVE my son very much and i want to be the Best mom i could !!!! so how do i come to turns without getting so stressed and depressed

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Amanda - posted on 08/28/2012

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Maybe he's just not interested in the things you are pushing on him, or the way you are working with him.

My son is the same age as yours and I try and find things that catch his attention and work learning into that.



I'll give a few examples of what I have done with my son. He's not great with counting, the teen numbers still confuse him. He is really into his football, so I get him to keep me updated on the score.

His pen control could be better, so instead of sitting him down and going over his letters and writing skills which he has a 5 second interest in doing, I get him to draw me a picture and tell me a story about what he has drawn. His pen control has improved significantly.

As much as he loves books, and knows all his letter sounds, he doesn't want to learn to read and start putting letters together to make words. I found a great little app for my iphone that I downloaded for him and within a few days he was recognising words and starting to make words with our letter fridge magnets.

Amanda - posted on 08/28/2012

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Amanda, what was the name of the app you downloaded?



Nicole, my son does the same thing when he gets tired of whatever I'm teaching. It drives me nuts, and if I get frustrated I know it's ME who needs the break becasue I want learning for him to be fun and something he can be proud of. If I fly off the handle everytime he has trouble focusing then it will deprive him of the joy in learning. So we stop and pick up later or the next day. Sometimes my son gets tired but still wants to push foward even though he's no longer able to focus and we'll move on to something easier for him to do that doesn't require as much thought.



Another thing, does he watch tv before you work with him? Do you call him right after play or work with him before bed when he's already tired? When he learns is actually just as important as how you teach him. If his mind is elsewhere than you'll get nowhere fast.

Chaya - posted on 08/27/2012

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He may be a little slow, so what, he's your son. If you can't learn to accept him for what he is, that's something wrong with you.

God isn't going to give you something you can't handle, so handle it.

One solution would be to have him watch PBS childrens programming. Those shows are designed to teach children.

Additionally, just because he's not up to grade level in reading doesn't mean his gifts aren't in science or music. Look for things he'd be interested in. You may find that he learns Karate or piano very fast, and you need to concentrate on things he's good at or he'll have very low self esteem.

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Amanda - posted on 08/29/2012

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Hey Amanda. It was called eggy words and the best thing was it was free. It has 100 sight words on it but there is a paid app that has 250 words. I thought 100 was more than enough to start with.

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