Need help to make my son feel just as important!

Patrice - posted on 03/13/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )




My daughter recently turned one. She always wants to be the center of attention. My son, who is three (soon to be four) feels left out a lot and I feel bad. What things can I do that involves both of them? thanks in advance


Elizabeth - posted on 03/14/2013




Start taking them both to the park and get them involved in playing with each other, maybe big brother can help pushing little sister on the swing, or maybe they can toss a ball to one another. My one year old loves playing ball!

Not good weather for the park? Color with them! One is the perfect age to start coloring and big brother would probably love to show little sister how! Big Legos and age appropriate puzzles are great too. Try to do activities with them that makes your son feel like he is helping and teaching, this will make him feel like the star and still your daughter will be the center of attention!

Hope this helps. I only have one child right now and I am struggling with the same dilemma in my mind, how do I have another one without making the first one feel left out!


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Amanda - posted on 03/26/2013




Going through this with my son and niece. She is one and a half and a handful. If my son has something she hits him till he either gives it to her or pushes her. (I like the let them work it out method as they need to see that what they do effects how the other reacts) As for playing he gets out his big cars or mega blocks and we play together, well for the most part. They love to color and read and do puzzles and now that it is nice outside he takes her for rides in his Jeep or pushes her on the little trike we have.

Deanna - posted on 03/25/2013




Going to the park, he can help with teaching her how to walk, games, colouring, story time. My daughter loves to tell her brother stories and loves to him sing him to sleep.
Doing things together is important, but you also need to have time with just him. If Daddy is in their life, take turns spending time with him. Play games, crafts, things he likes to do.
Hope this gives you ideas :)

Patrice - posted on 03/14/2013




thank so much Elizabeth. I haven't thought of it that way. I used to get mad when he got mad that he felt like he was being left out. im going to try your idea.. thank you :)

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