Need help understanding some things. i'm so lost and sad

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my fiance has a son with other women who abused,neglect him for a year and he was put in foster care for a year too and he was placed into our care and started to show some effect from the abuse,neglect. On may 11,2012 he hurt himself really bad like he piniched his penis until it was black and purple and swollen and he fell on a toy we believe,got a burise on his butt cheek and we had to take him to the hospital, two days before that he climbe on a coffee table and fell and gave himself a pretty bad black eye and the docotor called children service and they took my step son and my real son away. they took my son away because i taught him to use his manners really well. they are making things up and lying about stuff and won't listen to our story. i want to know if this is normal and how i can proof this. Also while he was in foster care, the foster parent baby my step son really bad when he came into our care he was on baby bottles and suckys and he couldn't walk, people had to carry him every where and he didnt know how to play and he wanted to sleep all the time

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Rosemary - posted on 07/08/2012

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Ok sweetheart I know I'm not even in the same country as you and laws and things are very different. However may I surgest to you that you request them to have to two boys seen by a mental theripeist it will prove that both children are different both raised differently. And believe it or not they will be able to see all of this here in Australia there are mental therapists for all ages. It is also known here that some kids don't like getting in to a normal fictional home it scares them they like being in the system they are used to being treated that way and have grow to know it the only way. So they do what they can to have it again. In your case he did it to himself he was making your home feel like the rest of the homes he has been to. This is something the doctors will pick up. Its much like prisoners some can't live anywhere else they go crazy anywhere else but in jail they feel safe, home. I hope I have helped you if you can understand my spelling errors. sorry spelling not a strong point for me but all the same I hope I helped.

Tina - posted on 07/07/2012

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get a lawyer. do as much research and seek as much legal advice as you can. They should know he's been abused and there is likely to be some issues because of it. Point out if you were abusive you wouldn't have taken him to the hospital. And abusive and neglective parent would not have done that.

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Rosemary - posted on 07/09/2012

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I am glad I have given you infomation that is useful good luck sweat heart I hope you have you boys back soon.

Sara - posted on 07/09/2012

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Maybe as well as doing research and I would do the mental theropy if u have that you could get friends and family for references on you and your partner and I would probably try to get hold of a police back ground check on you both too it will help your case to prove that you have no previes record of abuse .... I'm sorry to hear that has happened to you and good luck

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we got a lawyer and they got them for 6 months because children service lied and made stuff up and they got what they wanted. we did a lot of research on this and they told us that what he did couldn't happen and 2 1/2 year old can't do that to himself

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my fiance has a son with other women who abused,neglect him for a year and he was put in foster care for a year too and he was placed into our care and started to show some effect from the abuse,neglect. On may 11,2012 he hurt himself really bad like he piniched his penis until it was black and purple and swollen and he fell on a toy we believe,got a burise on his butt cheek and we had to take him to the hospital, two days before that he climbe on a coffee table and fell and gave himself a pretty bad black eye and the docotor called children service and they took my step son and my real son away. they took my son away because i taught him to use his manners really well. they are making things up and lying about stuff and won't listen to our story. i want to know if this is normal and how i can proof this.

Louise - posted on 06/30/2012

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