Need help with 2 year old toddler

Sarah - posted on 01/13/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




I have a friend who is having trouble with her 2 year old, he is not as verbal as he should be for his age so she does not want to put him on a time out because he is not verbal enough to understand. He screams and doesn't listen and someties hits.She does not want to yell at him but she has lost control of him. I am not sure what advise to give her so I thought I would ask other moms.


Allie - posted on 01/14/2011




Even though he's not verbal/vocal it doesn't mean that he doesn't understand. If she's concerned with that aspect then she can take him to the pediatrician who can recommend a good speech therapist. But it could also mean something more is going on (not to scare you or her ) but something like autism or aspergers. She just needs to remember to remain calm and always be patient.

Christy - posted on 01/14/2011




Look into state run programs. My son had the same issues and I enrolled him in ECI in Texas (early childhood intervention) for speech therapy.


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Aicha - posted on 01/30/2011




Have your friend take her son to the doctor contact your state for early head start and intervention programs

Lana - posted on 01/28/2011




The reason he is screaming and hitting is because he cannot communicate correctly. Just because he is not verbal enough does not mean his mother cannot communicate. She needs to encourage him to talk (ask him questions, get him to repeat different words, read books with words like ball, book, and the ask questions about what colour the ball is, describe the ball, if they go to the park she should ask what would you like to play on first the swing or the slide) then there is non verbal communication, looking at each other when they speak to each other, her getting down to eye level when she disciplines him. If he is having a meltdown or she can see a meltdown is about to erupt she should divert him with something he enjoys doing, or a favourite toy. Also as others have suggested, take him to see pediatrician, or a speech therapist. My daughter is 2 and she gets timeouts, but I dont just use timeout for all punishments, you dont need to yell at a child to discipline him, but a firm voice is suitable.

Kelina - posted on 01/28/2011




just because he's not talking it doesn't mean he doesn't understand. My son will be two in a couple of weeks aand doesn't say anything, but understands EVERYTHING! tell her to take him to his doctor and see about having his hearing evaluated and then she can decide whether she wants to see about speech therapy or not. But also try play groups and stuff. My son advanced in leaps and bounds when we moved and he got to spend more time with other kids.

MARTHA DRUENETTA - posted on 01/27/2011




It seems,as if the toddler is expressing himself, thru the hitting,and screaming. I never talked baby talk, to any of my kids, or grandkids. Talk in a normal tone, and tell him what he should, and should not do. He does understan everything you say, you been saying it for two years.

Kim - posted on 01/17/2011




I know someone who had the same problem. First she should talk to his pediatrician. They do have programs where they will send a speech therapist out to her house to work with him every week. That's what my friend had to do and it definitely helped.

Deepali - posted on 01/14/2011




I guess u need to give a little more time to the kid.Don't shout or yell becoz 2 yrs doesn't have words to say so they show anger through hitting. Try to take him out for playdates and do some art work at home.Keep him busy.U have to be patience becoz he may not like what u doing I guess u can put him in school also. My son started talking when he started going to school . Playhouses are a good source of help

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