Need help with a jealous 2 1/2 year old! What do I do?

User - posted on 05/01/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have a 2 1/2 year old son and a 2 month old daughter. My son is so jealous of his sister and I just don't know what to do. He throws stuff at her, hits her in the head, tries to throw her on the floor. I never leave them alone in the room together so thank god she has not gotten (seriously) hurt. I'm just terrified someday he will really hurt her.
We spend a little bit of time during the day to play with her and he's really sweet to her then. I spend a lot of time playing with him and reading books to him, honestly he still gets most of the attention. It seems like no matter what I do he still acts out against her. I just don't know what to do! It keeps happening. Please help!!


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Janice - posted on 05/01/2012




I would start implementing a punishment when he tries to hurt his sister. Obviously he needs your love and attention but he also needs to realize that hurting is not acceptable. My kids are 2 1/2 and 5 months. When my daughter tries to hurt her brother she gets a time out. She sits in the time out spot for 2 minutes and then must say sorry to her brother for what she did. I also will walk away from her while holding the baby if she is being a punk. I tell her she has to be nice or I will not play with her.

Overall she is really great with him. We play up the big sister gig and she will bring him a blanket or toys and tell him "its okay" when he cries. She is most jealous when dad holds him. She will shout "give me back my daddy, baby ba" (ba is brother), but my hubby just says I'm his daddy too, ans she is starting to learn that she must share.

It is going to take time for your son to adjust. Be consistent and in time it will all work out. :)

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