New Here need advice about my 3 year old

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Hi everyone I am new here and I need some advice. I have a 3 wonderful kids oldest is 19 years old, 14 years old and my 3 year old

My 3 year old her been a joy but he is my hardest child. He will be 4 years old in May. I have problems with him screaming and yelling when he gets excited at things and can't voice his words. I know at the beginning he was a late talker. But he isn't so bad that he doesn't know his words it is more like he has all older brother and sisters that know what he wants and takes care of it for him. The doctors are not worried but being home with him all day I am starting to lose my mind with the screaming and yelling and sometime chirping at cartoons and games.

He is so head strong stubborn and sometimes gets so mad when he can't build something that he wants too. I know he is just a normal little 3 year old boy I know he will most likely have to do speech therapy because he has a strong baby talk lisp.

I know he has tons of energy and might even be called ADD. I am not one to just medicate my child. I know my oldest son had a mild case of ADD and later on we found out that he had Dyslexia. My oldest son graduated high school and is now in College I am proud of him.

My youngest son who is going to be 4 years old in May I know he should being going to preschool but the cost just to type to get him going is so expensive we make to much to get help but not enough to pay 4 to 5 hundred a month.

Is there any other moms that feel like they are going crazy with the screaming and have any ideas how to get them to stop? I tried talking to him and I tried time out. I need some ideas because I am starting to think I need to get help for myself my nerves are shot by the end of the day because he doesn't nap. by 6pm I am ready for a stiff drink.

I still have to cook, clean and be mom to my other 2 kids. I also take care of my mother in law who lives with me so sometimes I just want to cry but I I keep telling myself that he is just going through a phase and it will get better. Any ideas?


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Thank you Trina for commenting. I homeschooled my daughter she is 14 years old right now. She started high school last August she is really smart and super shy I homeschooled her for 3 years 6th, 7th, and 8th grade. I loved it she is really smart I had an amazing time teaching her and seeing her mind grow. I couldn't homeschool her in Guam because there wasn't any programs that would be accredited so I had no choice but to put her in high school. She is doing really well I am very proud of she. My oldest son is in college and doing great in his studies.

My youngest son I found out that he loves to help me while I cook. He really loves to help me make homemade bread. I know he has a lot of energy that I have to somehow get it all out or else he gets himself into trouble plus he is 3 years old well he turns 4 in May. I want my kids to be able to be kids and have fun. I just have to figure out where I can go to have fun and make friends while I am here in Guam.
Thank you

Trina - posted on 02/27/2014




I am a mother of 3 boys. My oldest 2 are now in their 20s and my youngest just turned 1.. (I know! It's amazing!) My two older boys were both diagnosed with ADHD but instead of allowing teachers to coerce me into medication that benefitted "their" day, I made the choice to homeschool... it's not for everyone, but worked great for us! One thing I learned right away was an outlet for mental & physical energy was essential to get through the day!! By challenging their bodies with exercise and their minds with problem solving obstacles, our days were usually uneventful! That's not to say we didn't have our "out of nowhere" outburst, but it certainly minimized it! I would suggest an exercise trampoline (small one) and even a stationary exercise bike! Puzzles instead of TV and problem solving toys rather than just plain old hotwheels! Coloring & play-dough were nice, but didn't meet their needs. This is just my perspective... I sure hope it helps and if not, I hope a solution is in your near future, because I know what you are going through!!!

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