Out of control or something else?

Laurie - posted on 03/13/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My soon to be daughter-in-law has a 2 year old sister.The sister was a premie and hasn't had much contact with other children.She refuses to eat so now has a feeding tube.The toddler hits others,screams loudly and pinches herself on her face to the point of drawing blood.I had four kids,but never have seen anything like this.The behavior has my future daughter-in-law worried something is wrong and if there is anything she can do.Suggestions?

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Maureen - posted on 03/16/2012

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My kid was born at 28 weeks 6 years ago I've been there done that EARLY INTERVINTION, from a mom of a healthy kindergarten the programs work and they are free and they come to you or your kids daycare. Speech, Phycial, therapy hearing test they even have nutrient on staff who helps with new foods to try with your kid.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/14/2012

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These are signs of severe autism. The little on needs to be evaluated. Choosing not to eat may be from the fact that autistic children tend to have digestive problems that can be painful. They also tend to hurt themselves and scream when they bexome upset becauae they do not know how to express their emotions. It is important that this be investigated before the child hurts herself severely or hurts someone else, the latter being less likely.

Katherine - posted on 03/13/2012

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It sounds like failure to thrive syndrome.



Symptoms:



If the condition progresses, undernourished kids may:



become disinterested in their surroundings

avoid eye contact

become irritable

not reach developmental milestones like sitting up, walking, and talking at the usual age

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Christina - posted on 03/19/2012

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As far as the 2 year old---She should def suggest having the child evaluated by a neurologist and/or child development specialist.

as for the safety of the 6 month old, I would suggest that they need to protect that baby first and foremost by never allowing the two year old in the vicinity of the infant w/o a responsible adult who will be watching both children very carefully. and if this is not possible, they may have to have limited contact even though this will be difficult as they are all family.

Laurie - posted on 03/15/2012

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Thanks for the feedback everyone.Yes,she has been slow to develop in the area of speech.Mom,in my opinion gives her too much stimulation, and has always been super protective.but,then I can't say too much since I have never been in the situation of nearly losing a child.Since the feeding tube has been put in,she has gained a little weight and is even enrolled in a mommy's day out twice a week.She shows behavior problems there too,(hitting,pinching...)but not to the extent as when she is with the family.I have never seen a child inflict pain on themselves to the point of drawing blood.My son's fiance is baffled and a little frightened and doesn't know how to approach her mother that more could be "going on".My son and his fiance have a 6month old baby and understandably are concerned this little sister will seriously hurt their baby,(she has been caught hitting him).This is a tricky situation.

Colleen - posted on 03/13/2012

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Hi Laurie,



It definitely sounds like something beyond the regular range. Has she always had behavioral problems or is it fairly new? Has she talked with other parents and professionals about it? It sounds like she might need to do some research and then try different things in order to find ways to make things better. What a tough situation for everyone.

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