Poking other kids eyes

Randy - posted on 08/02/2016 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My 2year 4month old is our only child right now. I try to take him to mommy and me classes so he can interact with other kids. Problem is that when he plays with something and goes away from it, if he sees another kid touching it he runs back and pokes the kid in the eyes. The other kids obviously lets go and starts crying. My son just continues playing. When I reach him I take away the toy and show him what he did to the other kid and try to explain that he should "make nice". Most kids just push another kid out of the way. He goes for the eyes. And he is not learning his lesson!! Obviously it's even worse when he is tired.
I don't know what to do. I need help. People give me a dirty look and become very protective of their child when he's around. His skills are on par for his age.

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Snow - posted on 08/04/2016

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My daughter is a bit younger, and has never poked other children in the eyes, but she has been known to give some serious shoves on occasion when things aren't going her way, or when someone else has something she wants. It was becoming increasingly frequent when she was around 15 months old and I disliked it immensely. Even though she was quite young, by 15 months she spoke simple sentences up to 3-5 words and had very good receptive language which allowed me to explain to her what she did wrong, why it isn't allowed, and what was going to happen as a result. I tried several things, but worked best was a time-out; as soon as I saw it happen, I would immediately (no warnings) go and get her and say firmly, but calmly, "NO pushing. Pushing is not nice, it hurts. When you push you get a time-out. Let's go have a time-out". I would take her by the hand and make her sit next to me on the floor facing away from the fun (the opposite direction as me). At first, to make her stay, I would hold her hands in mine, but not look at her or give her any attention (I'd ignore her for the duration of the time-out). The time-out didn't need to last long, after about 1 minute I would let her get up and ask "are you going to push anymore?", And she would, of course, answer "no. no pushing.". After the first hour of doing this, she rarely pushed/hit any kids again, but when it does happen, she gets a time-out right away. She is now 19 months old and I haven't seen her hit or push another child in at least a month or 2.

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