potty training

Margo - posted on 01/06/2013 ( 13 moms have responded )

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my boy connor is 2 years and 8 month im finding it hard to toilet train him as he does not like his nappy of at all he screams he is ok in bath but when hes out he cries. ive managed to get him to sit on toilet with his we seat n he is fine with that will sit there for ages without doing the toilet so i was thinking of keep getting him used to this to see if anything happens. i would be grateful for any tips on how to toilet train my boy xx

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Cecilia - posted on 01/09/2013

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Margo just be patient. Keep trying. He will get there. I heard girls are easier. *rolls eyes* Just keep doing what you're doing and eventually when he does go it will kinda snap into place. It might take 2 months of work to get him to start but then maybe 3 days of additional work to finish it off.

It's cold here also in NY so i know the feeling. Summer training is always easier. The grass handles pee better than the carpet.

Gigi - posted on 01/09/2013

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I live in northern Europe and they advised me to start potty training at 2,5/3 years. Its not only the US. Its the time of very absorbant diapers that make it difficult on a child to realise its wet and easy for parent to use them.
My point was that you can teach a child a lot of things at early age, including how to pee on a toilet, but if they are not ready it is going to take lot of effort and probably be stressful on a child. I am not saying its wrong, I just don't see much point (other than eco friendly side of it) in doing it at very early age (below 1 year, and depending on a child - 1,5 years).

Cecilia - posted on 01/08/2013

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actually as far as I knew only Americans will wait until 3 to train. Most do it much younger. I'm not stating one way is right or wrong, better or worse.

Truth is it does depend on the child, and how much time the parents put in to it. My first was fully trained by a year. Soon as he walked i started training him. I had other kids, had less time to devote to it at that young age, on top of realizing how much i stressed him and me out doing it that way. I choose to wait until 18 months- 2 years to start them. I can't imagine waiting until 3 to start, although it might relieve the stress all together.

Gigi - posted on 01/08/2013

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I heard of that - it has a name, potty whispering or something like it? I figure that it takes much more effort to teach a child to do something at the stage they are not ready for it, than wait until they are developed enough. Depending iin which country you live recommended age is anything between 18 months-3 years.

User - posted on 01/07/2013

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i couldnt potty train my daughter in diapers or pull up so i put her in real panties and she hated the feeling of them wet so that helped her finally start using the potty.

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Margo - posted on 01/09/2013

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thanka everyone for all the comments ive took them all into consideration. im from scotland so weather isnt really that good lol. what ive done is put pants on him to get him used to pants he used to refuse to wear them now hes wearing them but you can tell he doesnt like wearing them because of the way he is walking he had an accident so i sat him on his toilet seat then put clean pants back on he didnt like them back on but he came round, half an hour later i put him on toilet seat sat half an hour and he still didnt do anything we had books in toilet we were singing and everything but still no toilet by that time i had to go pick my other boy up for school. im always saying to connor when im doin a pee pee and same with his big brother and his dad and when i say to him goin to doo pee pee in big toilet he says its away and when i say do you want to where youre pants he says there away. he liked the pants because they had pictures of we cars on them and he loves car. i put the pants on his favorite teddy so think this encouraged him to put them on. im working backshif and my partner works nightshift so i just need to keep getting him used to pants and goin to toilet it seems very hard with connor as he seems set in his ways. i have a friend who has a little girl same age just few months younger and she took to it no bother i know every child is different hopefully we get there soon xx

Rupa - posted on 01/08/2013

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I potty trained my baby very earlier and now she never bed wet in night. She can well understand her bowel movement and tells me whenever she wants to pass urine or toilet.

Rupa - posted on 01/07/2013

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I potty trained my girl when she was 5month old. Now she is 17month old, she always uses her potty. It's better to start potty training little earlier.

Cecilia - posted on 01/07/2013

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oh forgot to mention since you have a boy.. they love learning to pee on trees. Sounds silly but it's true. I don't know where you live or how warm it is but keep it in mind.

I also tried doing my daughter in the summer and she wet herself and then told me for a week strait. i figured she didn't understand until it had happened so i also stopped for a bit.

Most pre-schools allow them to come when not potty trained. Some are great at helping in training.

I dont know how much older your older one is but maybe have him help out. Have him show off his underwear to the younger. Let Connor go in the bathroom with the older. Praise the older when he goes to the bathroom in front of him, tell him he's such a big boy.

Margo - posted on 01/07/2013

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i meant to write as well that i sat him on his potty n he just cried wanted lifted off as if scarred so i lifted him of n sat him on his toilet seat n he seemed to like that xx

Margo - posted on 01/07/2013

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thanks that sounds really helpful. what it is he doesnt like his nappie off think he likes the security of having it on. ive currently got him on pull ups but he stilll doesnt like pulling them down to take them of. i have his little seat on toilet and when he is on it i have made it into fun he has little ducks on it and goes quack quack. ive got pants ill try him with the pants and make them sound as if they r the best thing in the world. ill do what u says and use my older boys old ds and see if that takes his mind of it when hes on the toilet. my older boy was different to toilet train he liked runnning around with no clothes on and round about 2 and half i could tell he was ready but with connor he just doesnt like it when hes not got a nappy on. i tried him with pants a few months back but he just cuddled into me and wouldnt move and when i stood him up he had an accident and just cried so i thought id leave him for a while. im just worrying more now thinking he will be going to preschool nusery soon and what if he still not toilet trained, but thanks very much for your help im going to try what you have says xx

Cecilia - posted on 01/06/2013

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I have a daughter close to the same age (26 months) and i'm also training her. Here's what we are doing.

First I don't push the issue. Pressuring only makes them back off.

She does not like the small potty chair, she likes having a seat. I don't know if you've given him the option of liking the potty seat more.

We offer treats (gummy bears)for trying, at first if she sat on the toilet she was rewarded. Now if she asks to go she gets a treat. We told her if she poots on the potty she will get a new build-a-bear. Yep bribery at it's best!

We also took her shopping at let her pick out her own big girl panties. It makes them excited to try them on. You might be thinking about your poor floors and carpets. Guess what with the money you save on diapers, you can get a steam cleaner. This might be a good thing to try because you said he doesn't like diapers.(or did i misunderstand and nappy is underwear?) Anyways.. If he picks out ones he likes tell him he wants to keep them nice and clean and not mess them up. This way is much easier when it warm.

Take him to the bathroom about 30 minutes apart. Give him something that is just for the bathroom to play with. I heard digital toys are great for this. This keeps their mind busy so they don't stress about going. (currently not doing this but i plan to) you can buy used handheld systems at pretty much any game store, or go buy a leap pad or something of that sort. Or even let him borrow your phone or tablet if you have one for potty time. there are a ton of free kid friendly aps.

When he goes, make sure you make a huge deal out of it. Do dances, clap, be overly excited. It shows him he did it right and will want to do it again.

There will be accidents.. don't make a huge deal out of them. Just say okay let's change your underwear and try again next time.

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