Really bad behaviour everyday with my 3 year old son!

Amy - posted on 08/30/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son is 4 in November. He throws massive tantrums throughout the day starting with getting himself dressed in the morning, eating breakfast, putting shoes and socks on, walking places that arnt where he wants to go, dinner time, what he wants to drink, in shops, leaving places he don't want to leave, walking home. I know it sounds normal for his age but when I say tantrums they are full blown screaming holding on to me, pulling my clothes. He is very big for his age and this is very unacceptable People look at me and I bet they think oh its them again because of how constant these tantrums happen. I do stick to my word and follow through with what I say, for example making him go home and going to bed till hes calmed down, putting him on time outs and taking nice things away from him but it does not work!! im starting to think he has something wrong with him, which I feel awful for thinking but hes behaviour really makes me question this. Don't get me wrong when he is good, which he Is a lot of the time aswell throughout the day, he is really good but this is usually followed by a massive tantrum!!!

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Trish - posted on 09/06/2013

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Did the post from Kelly offend you? What was said wasn't much different than what I said. I do hope you find help for your son. Only the best is wanted for you and your son. Please believe that.

Cristyc22 - posted on 09/05/2013

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Hi Amy. I have a 3 1/2 year old, he will be 4 next January. I am too am having the same experiences. He generally is well behaved but when he does not get something he wants he throws a full-blown tantrum where he cries (tears rolling down his face), kicks, pulls on my clothes too. I sit down with him on the floor and reason with him by giving him choices, and I try not to talk loudly with him ( I am a soft-spoken person), because when I do raise my voice it seems to upset him more. I have been worried myself. He stays at home with me and has been to a mother's day out program last school year, but this year I was late with registering. I sometimes wonder if it's because he's not around others (he has 2 older teenaged siblings). I just ordered "The Happiest Toddler on the Block" by Dr. Harvey Karp and joined parentmap.com for tips. I hope to find some answers here too. Good luck! and keep in touch! :)

Kelly - posted on 09/04/2013

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He could have an anxiety disorder is he mostly upset in public places ? It sounds like when the pressure is on in anyway he has a fit ....this could be due to anxiety. Have you tried reacting differently? Sometimes kids do things because of the attention there recieving ...im not saying your doing anything wrong but maybe for the sake of your own sanity, you should seek help for you, so u can cope, it can be exhausting being a parent ..and i know from experience if i cope better my kids do too. Also i've learnt from my own children that sometimes how you approach things can mean a world of difference like for example, one of my girls will take things at face value, where as with the other i need to reassure her and talk it out .

Trish - posted on 09/04/2013

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It sounds like your son may need some assistance with his emotional behaviors. There are people who could help him, and maybe that could start with your doctor. You mentioned that he throws a tantrum when he is getting himself dressed in the morning. Do you assist him at all? If not, maybe he is frustrated and that causes him to act out. Have you ever told him that he would have to stay in his room if he throws a tantrum? Maybe that would cause him to stop and think about what he is about to do. Just a suggestion. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Are you a single parent? Just wondering. If not, am wondering if your husband is on board with you concerning dealing with your son's behaviors.

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