Refusing to eat dinner

Anna - posted on 01/28/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My daughter is almost 3 and for the last 3 nights she is refusing to eat dinner. No matter what I give her. Some times she cries and then starts shaking. This goes on for 2 hours. Then she will eat a little piece of something and go to bed. What should do. My husband and I are fustrated by this. We both begg her to eat sometimes we even yell(I know we should not yell)I even tried bargining with her.

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Jade Marie - posted on 03/28/2014

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My daughter is nearly 18 months and will not eat ANY type of dinner i make and would rather go without. She is even refusing baby pots which she used to prefer,and will only eat biscuits/ chocolate, which i will only let her eat when she has refused food all day. Any other food she spits out, and i have tried making things fun and letting her feed herself by tasting various things, but she soon gets bored. I'm starting to get over stressed about her eating habits, because she is really active but has always been underweight for her age. It is also hard making meals all the time and having to waste them, because she keeps refusing them...
We are going on holiday in 5 weeks and i am dreading it with her eating habits... we want the holiday to be fun and relaxing, so i need some serious tips for an extremely stubborn and intelligent child!

Donielle - posted on 02/04/2009

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I know it can be hard but make one meal and stand your ground. Chances are, whatever you and your husband are eating is very healthy and good for the kids too. Don't get in the habit of letting them think they can call the shots. When dinner is ready, set it down in front of them and say grace (if you do). Then, let everybody go around the table trying a different food and making a funny ryhme about what they just ate or a silly way of saying they like it. For example...Mommy just had some wacko jacko potatoes!! Then let the kids take turns. Eventually she would have eaten everything on her plate, although it may take some time. I have two boys so I can barely keep enough food in the fridge! Hang in there...you are a GREAT Mom!! Hope I helped!

Anna - posted on 02/04/2009

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Its great (that sounds stragne I know) to see that I am not the only parent with this problem.  Eliana ate better last night in fact she told me dinner was great.  Its slow going but I noticed if I dont complaint she eats and eats well.  Thanks for all the help. 




Vicki I sometimes make 2 meals because my 2 and 3 yr old wont eat what me and my husband eat.  I dont know how to change this habit.  My mother eaised 7 of us and pretty much made 3 sometime 4 different meals a night because we all ate different things.  I dont know how she did it cooking 2 meals makes me crazy at times.

Vickie - posted on 02/04/2009

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Hi Anna,,, I had the same problem with my middle child ... I would make it very clear to him that if he didn't eat what we gave him that there would be nothing else until breakfast ... He said ok and would go play ... He did this for about 2 weeks ...  I asked around and was told that as long as he wasn't loosing weight and was eating his other meals,,, that it was no big deal !!! 



He just turned 5 and still does it every now and again ... I refuse to make more then one meal .. So I know that when he doesn't eat,,, he's just not hungry !!!



I also noticed my youngest (she'll be 3 in May),,, has started the same thing with lunch ... I tell her the same thing ... Nothing else until supper (NO SNACKS) ... She did it for a week and started eating lunch again !!! I think that she did it because her two oldest brothers got snacks before supper but not her and beleive me she tried getting her snack ...



About the yelling,,, don't worry ... We did it as well with our middle child ... I think we get so frustrated because we're scared that they're starving themselves !!! I think too that for us,,, it was a shock because my oldest has a GREAT appetite !!!



I know it's hard ... Good luck !!!

Amanda - posted on 02/02/2009

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I was so comforted, oddly, to read that someone else was going thorugh the exact thing I am with my nearly-3-year old. We've been letting her go to bed (what she'd rather do than eat) and saving her plate. She eats a HUGE breakfast, and will have a light lunch, but after 430, she is DONE eating for the day. It's so odd. I've been getting in 'heavier' snacks knowing she is going to balk at sitting down for dinner. KUDOS to you and your patience :)

Anna - posted on 02/02/2009

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Hi Everyone  Well tonight she ate 4 chicken nuggets and that all and I was so happy.  My mother takes cae of her during the day and said she didnt eat much so I kind of knew shew ould eat tonight.  Thanks for all the advise, I should know this is a stage My hsband and I went through this with her when she was turning 15 months.  LOL she is just more strong willed now.  Hopefully tomorrow will be good too.  I will keep you all posted.

Nikita - posted on 02/02/2009

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my docter told me not to worry about it they will go threw a stage between 2 and 3 were they will not eat but if they are hungry enough they will eat what is given to them

Debby - posted on 02/02/2009

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I'm in much of the same situation with my 2 yr old. She used to be a fantastic eater, but now I can't get her to eat anything for me for supper. She hasn't eaten meat for me in over a year (not even hotdogs or chicken nuggests). The ONLY thing she will eat without a fight is french fries, and I try really hard not to give them to her. Every night is the same issue - I put the food that I made for supper in from of her, and she will fight it and cry and throw her plate on the floor. I will usually leave her in her seat until we're finished eating before letting her down. Within 20 minutes she's asking for something to eat. I will either re-heat supper leftovers, or give her a PBJ sandwich or something like that

Sharlotte - posted on 02/02/2009

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hi



    abigail has always been a bad eater if you got past 3 mouthfulls of anything it was a victory and the other day she tryed it on so i took her dinner away fed harry who gobbled it all up so i gave him pudding and i told her that unless she eats her dinner she will not get pudding,so i put her in harrys high chair and she ate it all and didnt have room for the pudding....harsh but it worked : )

Anna - posted on 02/02/2009

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Last nite Eliana was at it again.  So I tried ignoring it and we all sat to the table and ate.  She did not.  When we finished she was still sitting there.  She sat there for an additonal hour and she still did not eat.  finally she said she wanted to go to bed and she did. HELP!!

Anna - posted on 01/31/2009

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Hi All



Last night she ate good because we went out to eat she kept asking to go out to eat).  Tonight she stated  the refusing to eat thing again and I ignored it, put her plat in front of her and told her it was Ucy(her imaginary friend, yes she has one of those, I guess that is ok isnt it?)well after 10 minutes she said Ucy went to Nenes house(her grandmother) and she ate it. small steps bet she is doing better.



 



By the way is it normal for a almost 3 year old to have an imaginary friend? she's had it since she was about 20 months old.

Kathy - posted on 01/30/2009

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I was driving to work this morning thinking about you and your daughter and I wondered if she was acting out/up for attention. Kids crave it - good or bad! Sometimes ignore their rants is good thing. I am so happy things went better and it continues!

Anna - posted on 01/30/2009

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Well last night hard but after I did what Kathy suggested she ate but it took her an hour and a half.  I hope tonight is a better night.

Tracy-ann - posted on 01/30/2009

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my 3 year old went through it also it's more of a control issue they want to make the decision when they want to eat.the novelty of this faze will pass.

Anna - posted on 01/29/2009

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Hi Kathy



I tried what you said.  I made her sit to the table, she watched me and my husband eat and my 2 year old was done.  All of a sudden she started eating, and ate it all.  I hope it works like this tomorrow. it was and hour and a half after I wanted her to eat but I will take that.

Kathy - posted on 01/29/2009

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WOW Anna - Sorry to hear that! She is precocious! :) Will she eat cereal? Anything? Maybe your doctor has more suggestions or can hook you up with a dietitian. Keep me posted.

Anna - posted on 01/29/2009

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Ok so this is nite 4 or 5 I am loosing count she still isnt eating.  She is not eating right during the day thanks to Grandma, so I think dinner is important.  I am really at a loss here.  I will try making her sit there instead of sending her to her room.

Kathy - posted on 01/28/2009

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I think this is pretty typical behavior. If she has eaten balanced meals and snacks throughout the day - I wouldn't make it a big deal at the dinner table. I would make her sit at the table and still be apart of the family dinner time but this to me is a "pick your battle" kinda thing and getting all upset and making her all upset isn't good for any of you.

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