Rocking to sleep a bad thing?

Melissa - posted on 03/16/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )




My husband and I are currently living with his mother and step father. The issue I have is, my three year old son. He has had a routine of bath, story, rock and then sleep.

Well, the step father has put his foot in and berated me for rocking my son to sleep. He tells me that I am spoiling him and do I want to be rocking him when he's 21? Before this, I have never given it much thought. I have enjoyed rocking him to sleep as it's a time for both of us to bond and snuggle. But am I in the wrong? Am I doing harm? And if so, what's the best advice to wean him from this.


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Elfrieda - posted on 03/16/2012




No, you're not in the wrong. It can be habit-forming, but if it's a good habit, there's nothing wrong with that. I got my son into the habit of being rocked/bounced to sleep, but I HATED it, it took 30-60 minutes to get him to settle and my shoulders were falling off. Even with that negative personal experience, I'd say if your son falls asleep within a reasonable amount of time and doesn't require rocking every time he wakes up in the night, there's no problem. I weaned mine of it when he was 9 months old and 25 lbs heavy. I was just too tired.

If you really want to wean him of it, he's probably old enough just to explain that he is going to learn a new way to fall asleep.

Vicki - posted on 03/16/2012




Of course you aren't doing harm, step father should put his foot somewhere else. You won't be doing it when he's 21. If it works for you then there's nothing wrong with it. I still breastfeed my almost 3 year old to sleep (well almost to sleep, he's usually still a bit awake), would probably give your step father a heart attack.

Nicky - posted on 03/16/2012




I dont believe your causing any harm, but it could become a very bad habit & hard to stop doing that. I used to rub my sons back until he fell asleep from the time he was a tiny baby until he was 5! Its a hard habit to break. My bf at the time also told me i shouldnt do it & well, I should have listened cuz I did it for 2 more years after that. My son would cry for me to rub his back because thats what he was used to, but it was time for me to stop. I dont see it being a problem, but just be warned it can become something hard to get rid of. He is now 11 and im glad i stopped when i did because i would probably still be rubbing his back to

Melissa - posted on 03/16/2012




Thanks guys! I am going to cut the time down for the rocking and have him lay down in bed while he is still some what awake. I think the reason he isn't going down right away is because of the new environment.

Brittney - posted on 03/16/2012




It is different for everyone, some kids feel they cant sleep without being rocked once it is started and some don't care one way or the other. I only rocked my daughter to sleep for the first month and then she slept through the night so I didn't bother. If you want to keep doing it, then do it.

September - posted on 03/16/2012




If you enjoy it and it works then keep doing it. I don't see a problem with it at all and trust me you're not spoiling him nor will you need to rock him until he's 21, that's just silly! I rocked my son for a while too. He's 3 now and I lay with him until he falls asleep because it's comforting for him and I enjoy the cuddle time. Whatever works for you is fine! :)

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