screaming in stores...

Carissa - posted on 05/15/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




My little boy will be two next month...I need some advice about the best way to deal with fit throwing in restuarants and stores. I know he is at the age where he is testing boundaries. I do not spank and I was wanting to here from moms with some experience...


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Laura - posted on 05/18/2010




instead of worrying about stopping it when it has happened, prevent it. i like to carry a colouring book and some crayons, and maybe some juice and fruit. also say before you leave the house, 'today we are going to do this this and this, and mummy and daddy expect you to behave in a certain way' explain what you expect from him and what he will get in return from you. my daughter likes an extra story at bedtime, or a trip to the park on our way home. but she has to choose her reward before we leave. hope this helps xx

Michelle - posted on 05/18/2010




I used to bribe mine I would tell him you be good while we are here be it the grocery or the restaurant and I will get you smarties or we will play a game when we get home...but if you are bad you get nothing and he would have to go to bed when we got home. this preempted a lot of issues in public

Alison - posted on 05/17/2010




My best suggestion to you for public temper tantrums is to leave where ever you are after you have warned him once, if he does it again you leave. I think its important to set the standard right away that that behavior is unacceptable while you are out. I have done it several times with my kids...I've even had to take a grocery cart full of food back to the service desk and walked out of the store!

Samantha - posted on 05/17/2010




Haaaaaaaaaa! I can soooooooooo relate , my daughter used to scream and perform so one day I walked away from her, she perfomed and screamed all I dii was look back slightly continously cheking she was ok, till she called out for me....I gave her the "eye" and asked her "Uyanda are you going to walk with Mommy and be a good girl or not!" She opted for being a good girl and she never perfomed in front of strangers after that. I used to beg her and try to keep her quiet but she would get I know its hard but try it ,it may work

Andrea - posted on 05/15/2010




for me two year old i would have him sit down in a chair for two minutes. After he sat there for two minutes I would let im up and tell him that i love him and i dont like having to put him in time-out. but he needs to know that when he doesnt listen there are conseqences. if u dont start now it will get worse. I have taken a parenting class not to long ago. there was times now matter if i had food in a cart or what i would pick my son up go to the car and he would sit in thecar with me for two minutes. Then i would ask him if he was ready to go back into the store and shop with me. And i would give him a hug and tell him i love him. u got to keep doing it. and use a different tone in ur voice than when u are telling him great job. they will throw fits more at first bc they are wanting u to give up and let them get what ever they want or want to do. it took me about three to four months to get where i am with my son now. he comes and gives me hugs and says please and thank you and is more patient with me when my daughter needs me. he still has is moments because he is a two year old toddler. i hope this helps u. and good luck.

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