Should I be worried about my 22 month old not talking?

Elizabeth - posted on 08/14/2012 ( 32 moms have responded )

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She can say thank you, bye, hello and baby. I'm a stay at home mom and we do school everyday so I do try to teach her everyday. I don't think she has a hearing problem b/c she knows nickelodeon songs and the bubble guppies script verbatim lol and she comes when called by name even out of eye sight. I asked this question on yahoo answers and was basically told that I need to get her evaluated b/c she's below average and blah blah all types of things parents don't want to hear. Could it be that she's just stubborn? I say things and she doesn't repeat or when she cries I'll point to objects and say what they are and she weill just give up rather than say the word. For example, she'll be reaching for a banana and I'll say "say nana!" while holding it and I'll just point and say nana over and over again so she knows that the object is called nana (nana seems less complicated) and within 30 seconds she'll walk away and give up. I'm worried about her giving up so fast, you would think she would say it if she wanted it but no.

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Sue - posted on 08/19/2012

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Why wouldn't you want her evaluated? Simply because you may hear 'blah blah all the types of things parents don't want to hear'? It's not about you, it's about her. As parents, we may sometimes hear things we don't want to hear...from doctors, from teachers, etc. But if it is ultimately for the betterment of our children, we need to learn to deal with unpleasant news.
Do you really think your little one's stubborness is outweighing her desire to communicate. I'm pretty sure if she were able to ask for that banana...rather than having to give up & walk away without it...she would. Can you imagine how frustrating that must be for her?
I speak from experience. When my son was almost 2, he spoke very few words. We had him evaluated by our Early Intervention Unit. We figured any information we were given as to how better meet the needs of our child would be completely welcome. He & his needs were our priority. He qualified for speech therapy. Within a year he had completely caught up to (& surpassed) the milestone expecations. I thank God we got him the help he needed when he needed it.
He's 10 now. He's athletic, very social, and extremely bright!
Please do your daughter a favor & look into getting her the help she made need. Good luck!

Melissa - posted on 08/15/2012

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My son is 31 months old and is just now starting to say more than Momma and Daddy. I do believe that some of his not wanting to talk is out of stubbornness. I did go and get his hearing checked and also took him to a speech therapist to make sure there was nothing physically stopping him from speaking. They said that he was mildly delayed and gave me some steps to work towards for 6 months to see if there was any improvement. I printed off pictures of letters, numbers, shapes and colors and taped them to his bedroom wall. He eventually got interested in them and now knows all his letters and knows some of his numbers to 10. But, he probably only says like 20 words. I have yet to take him back to the speech therapist, but I am enrolling him into pre-school to see if maybe that might help him. If I were you, I would go to a speech therapist and just see what they have to say just to make sure that there's nothing stopping her from learning. Otherwise, I wouldn't worry... a lot of times kids don't start really talking till they're 3 years old. I've been in your shoes and I know how you feel having a stubborn child :o) but she will start talking more probably in the next 6 months. I don't know if any of this helps, but maybe knowing another mother shared your worrying about this will help ease your struggles.
Good luck ~ Melissa

Diane - posted on 02/11/2013

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I wouldn't be too worried my sons the same age and hes not good with sentances but he babbles away. He does anything I ask but he's a man of little words. All children do things at different agea, theres too much pressure these days just enjoy them they don't stay babies long enough.

Carrie - posted on 08/15/2012

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Get her evaluated just for you own peace of mind. If there IS anything that needs to be addressed, the sooner you get it taken care of, the better off you'll both be. And if there ISN'T anything going on, you'll know and be able to relax and enjoy your daughter not talking back to you for a little while longer.

Melissa - posted on 02/06/2013

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I had originally posted that my son wasn't talking much and he was almost three... I just wanted to post an update. We just celebrated my son's 3rd birthday a couple of weeks ago and he's grown so much. We put him in an all day preschool at 30 months old and also in speech therapy through our public school system (which means it was free) and he has just made sooooo much improvement. He actually started to talk more when we put him in the preschool with his peers, that was the best decision! We are following up with the speech therapy to help with other things that we can't or don't know how to do. Follow your heart Mom's, listen to your gut and you will know what to do. May God be with you all ~ Melissa

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Erica - posted on 02/17/2013

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You may not want hear it but it would be best to have her tested. The sooner the better. Don't wait until she is three. My youngest was the same way. She has a developmental delay. Doesn't mean anything is wrong BUT knowing she has this enabled me to get her into programs in school to help her. She isn't in a special Ed class either. Now that she is 9 she is noticeably less mature than other kids but she is keeping up academically and that is because she gets a few exceptions that help her like extra time reading and extra encouragement to keep her focused. She isn't penalized like she would have been. No one wants to think anything is "wrong" with their child but if continue to ignore it and chalk it up as stubborn your hurting her and her chances of keeping up with development.

Kimberley - posted on 02/05/2013

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this has helped me out so much thank you!!!!! my son is 22 month and will only say stop, hey, hi and daddy i am so worried but all of these posts have made me less frightened that something is wrong

Gigi - posted on 11/13/2012

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I think that as a parent, you would be the first to notice some differences between your child and other children her age. Since you noticed them, why not get her evaluated? Then the expert can tell you if she is just "stubborn" or if there is a problem. In the worst case,if there is a problem, you will know what you are dealing with and be able to better help her.

On the side note (and I don't think it has anything to do with her not talking) I think that using incorrect words to a child (such as nana for banana) is not very good - they have to relearn them again correctly at later day. If you say a difficult word correctly, the child will pronounce it as well as it can at that moment, and if you stick to using it correctly eventually he/she will be able to say it properly. The benefit is that she will always know (even if she is not able to pronounce it) what is something called.

Margareta - posted on 11/12/2012

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I'm a mom that has a child that has

Developement Delays . My advise to you

Don't panic and

Dont press her. Continue to have fun .

If you are try to get her to do what you want

She is feeling your stress.

So if you have expectation and are

not just having fun please don't do it.

Remember All children

Develope differently.

You may want to Have a developemental

screening At your Peditrcians office or

with a Developemental Peditrican to put

you at ease . And if they find a delay it's

not the of the world, children learn. Finding

out early is key, so don't wait ;) ok !?

Nancy - posted on 10/31/2012

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Hi Elizabeth,



I don't think you have to worry so much. I would suggest you check out this video

by Glenn Doman.

www.rightbraineducationshop/gymnademics_singapore.



In the video he will explain why and how a kid behaves.



Your answer maybe there.

Julie - posted on 10/30/2012

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Getting an evaluation never hurts. If a professional feels there is a delay you will get free speech therapy etc. in our area my sons speech delay ended up getting him two free years of preschool and since in nj it would cost about 800 dollars a month without the state paying for it, it gave our son the head start he never would have had otherwise.

Amanda - posted on 10/30/2012

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If she's trying to say some words or new sounds, can point out objects when you ask where or what they are (such as ball, horse, dog, etc.) then I honestly wouldn't worry too much.



My first son's speech therapist used an exercise ball. She would sit him on top of it and when he tried to make the sound, like 'p' or 's', his reward was to bounce on the ball. Another thing to consider is she's just not sure how to use her mouth. Try stimulating her mouth by rubbing her cheeks and gum, have her do exercises with her tongue. My son's speech therapist would use a lollipop and have him stick his tongue out to touch it and she would have him move his tongue to the left, right, down, up, and out, he'd get a lick or two and then would exercise his tongue again. She did this for about 2-5 mins, not very long. With some sounds he had to learn how to make them, she would tell me to teach him to hold down the front of his tongue to make the soft 'g' sound.



My son was older than your daughter when he finally started seeing the therapist (2.5yrs old) and he was in much more need, he didn't speak or even try to speak or make sounds, but he did point to what he wanted and he could point out objects when asked. The best way to get them to try is by play and reward and not pushing too hard, and working on one thing at a time. So for example say she doesn't say please. When you play with her try to get her to say please and give her time to try. If she manages to get anywhere with it, even just a 'ps' or 'zee' sound praise her 'good try' and give her what she asked for. You don't want to overwhelm her or she will withdrawl from trying to learn. Good luck and I hope she improves!

Angela - posted on 10/27/2012

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fun ideas? get her toys she has to speak to, to make them work...a record and repeat bear, a doll that responds to you when you talk to it...etc. i got my son the ''your baby can read dvd's'', he would never respond to them, nor did i get him them to teach him to read, i got him them to give him an enthusiasm to talk...it worked a treat as i was making it exciting for him to watch. my cousin wouldn't talk (first born too) so my aunty took her too a speech therapist, she now has no problems talking, so it is worth looking into.

Tammy - posted on 10/13/2012

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Hi. Parenting is stressful but try not to make it a thing of pressure, then there is no reason to be stubborn about it. I didn't get my daughter assessed when advised to. She was talking well but my aunt, an OT told me she wasn't integrating propely. I didn't take it seriously and now my daughter is dyslexic and battles with reading. If I had done the assessment her life could have been easier. Good luck with whatever way you deal with it.

Mrs - posted on 09/29/2012

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hi i wouldnt be to worried as of yet , kids develop at there own pace, i sit with my kids and use flash cards at first easy ones like cat, dog ,fish, car, ball. etc try this for a couple of weeks or so if no improvement has been made , then your best option is to contact your local health visitor.



good luck , hope all goes well

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Should you be paranoid? Absolutely not. Should you be CONCERNED? Maybe. Remember, no one on here is an expert (unless you get a response on here from a speech pathologist), this is all personal opinion and/or experience. My question to you would be what would it hurt to have her evaluated??? Because you don't want to hear all kinds of things parents don't want to hear? No offense, but that is not in your daughter's best interest. If she needs a little extra help from a professional, then she needs the help, whether you want to hear it or not. Ignoring it doesn't automatically make that need go away. Children learn and develop at different rates, and unless there is a serious issue she will pick it all up eventually. HOWEVER, if she is not picking it up at a normal rate, she is bound to be frustrated (which you already are seeing). From what you described, it sounds like her language abilities aren't matching her cognitive function. Wouldn't that frustrate you?? Just have her evaluated. It's not that big a deal. Since her cognitive functioning seems normal, what's the worst they could tell you? That she needs speech therapy? Well then she will have scheduled play times with someone who has the expertise to encourage her language development. And you will learn more effective techniques to help her along as well. If she doesn't qualify, then you'll know she's just taking her time. But even the worst case scenario, all the stuff you don't want to hear- "blah blah blah" :) isn't anything devastating! I just went through all that, and I PROMISE it's no big deal. My son is almost 20 months, and at his 18m well check his pediatrician was concerned that he wasn't talking. She said by 18m a child should say 10-20 words clearly enough for someone other than his parents to understand. My son had ZERO words. He had occasionally uttered a word here or there, shocking us, never to repeat that same word again. Our pediatrician referred him to Early Intervention and by his evaluation appointment 2 weeks later, he was saying three words. Shit, six, and skunk. Obviously he qualified for the program and went on a waiting list for an available time slot with a speech therapist. The evaluating therapists taught me some ways to work with him in the meantime. My son is EXTREMELY distractable and stubborn, and it seemed like he's completely ignoring me when I would try their suggestions. But within a WEEK of the evaluation, he went from saying three words to saying about a dozen words. It took three or four weeks to get him set up with a speech therapist for weekly sessions, and he just had his second session this past week. It's very very laid back- they basically come and play with him, sometimes it will be one person, sometimes two. They incorporate my three year old and me so that it is very comfortable and fun for the kids, and educational--even though my 20m old hasn't picked up on the sign language yet, my three year old has and he thinks it's the greatest thing ever! I hope all of this eases your mind a little!!! Just have her evaluated by someone who is actually there to interact with her, as opposed to opinions of all of us who have never seen her. There's no shame in it, even if she does need a little help. It doesn't make her "slow" or mean that there is something wrong with her. Trust me, they made it a point of telling me that they see incredible cognitive abilities in my son, beyond what's normal for his age. But if a child is not talking at an age when they should, while they will pick it up eventually, those skills will be delayed which will just cause the child continued frustration with themselves and the world around them until they catch up. And as someone else stated, Early Intervention only works with them until age 3, so don't wait until it is too late and then she just has to play catch-up on her own, without the help of an expert who knows exactly how to teach her.

Natalie - posted on 09/12/2012

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The first thing I'm going to say is, you have nothing to worry about! Doctors overreact. They did the same thing with my son. Jake wasn't saying anything. Mama dada...nothing. We were petrified. I had him in speech therapy ( which was honestly fun). He picked up sign language in a day. 2 days before his second birthday he uttered his first sound (ow) for out. Then said bye bye. he was musical also. He could repeat a song melody back to you after the first time he heard it. What the speech therapist told us is that sometimes kids work on received language much longer. They are learning and taking everything in before they participate. Now, there are books that I used to read to him before he could talk, that he repeats back to me even though we haven't read them recently! Don't worry. For some kids, it doesn't happen overnight. Even after the "bye bye" moment, it still took a while to increase his vocabulary. I loved speech therapy. We used the Hanen Method (I may be wrong about the spelling). . Parents are directly involved. It's more about creating positive incentives for communication. Was speech therapy necessary? I'm not sure. Did it help calm my nerves and teach me how to communicate better with my son? Yes. Don't worry mama.

Sharayah - posted on 09/04/2012

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my 22 month old doesn't talk that much. He says what, bye, Daddy, momma, ok, what's that, mimi and about 5 or 6 other simple words (dog, don't, no and yay) But other then that he baby talks ALL the time! but right when I am thinking there is something wrong He will say the oddest words and shock everyone that he knows them. Last month we were at the zoo and he said "giraffe" while pointing at one. We work with him on his animals all the time but he never says the names back. I'm starting to think he is just storing it for later then one day he is just gonna talk about of the blue.



So I wouldn't worry to much. someday your LO is gonna shock you!

Brittni - posted on 09/01/2012

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Just be careful does she have any autistic signs? Speech delay is one of the main part of autism! If I was you I would get her evaluated! I'm a stay at home mom to a 2 yr old autistic son!!

Bethany - posted on 09/01/2012

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in my OPINION i would say get her checked. but its up to you my friends child now 3.5 only just started speaking after my son who is 11 mths younger was around her for a day and her sitter ( a family friend of both fams asked me what to do about it. my answer was persistance, flash cards ignoring the babble and sure enough she started talking, she has been in daycare for about 3 weeks and omg the things that she can say now is amazing, maybe you could find a playgroup or mummy n me group so that she can see what other kids are doing saying and it could encourage her to start. but def speak to her doc about it if ur this concerned :) good luck and remember we always encourage them to talk and walk faster and when they do all we want is for them to sit down n be quite ;)

Ashley - posted on 08/31/2012

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Like others have said there are no reasons to be concerned as each child reasons and acts differently. She may not talk regularly but it sounds like her cognition and speech are developing fine with her signing the other songs. If you aren't already I would recommend that you encourage her to use her words instead of pointing. We would have our daughter ask for things by name. We wouldn't give get things until she did and she started speaking very well. We also never let her fuss and just give her what she wanted to stop the fussing. Hope this advice helps...

Olivia - posted on 08/28/2012

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no everyone talks at differant times mabey she needs time mabey shes not ready they srou at differant times give her a chance if she doent talk in about 3 to 4 more months take her to a doctedr

Kristin - posted on 08/28/2012

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You need to have her evaluated by your state's early intervention program. At 18 months they should have 10 words and by 24 months they should have 50. It doesn't matter why she is not saying it, it matters that she isn't saying it. Also, she may not be saying it because she can't.

Jamie - posted on 08/26/2012

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Our son is 22 months. He has a HUGE vocabulary...at least 100 words and knows many more when you say them. However, 2 of my friends have lil guys. One is 10 wks younger, one is 12 wks younger. The youngest has a vocabulary bigger tham the middle! Alot of it can be the child,however it sounds like she is having difficulty expressing what she wants and is getting frustrated. I agree with some of the other mommas, have her evaluated ...even for your peace of mind. :))

Lisa - posted on 08/21/2012

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Our now 5 year old was only speaking 5 words on his 2nd birthday. Even though he could sign over 25 different words and phrases, our pediatrician was worried. We had his hearing evaluated (all fine on that front) and then met with a speech pathologist. It was the best thing we did! Within 6 months he was able to catch up with his peers, and now has an extensive vocabulary and is reading. Our speech path did ask us not to use baby talk and abbreviated names for objects. Asking for help from an expert is never a bad idea. Remember it is so much easier to work with a developmental delay when the child is younger. What takes 6 months to correct at two, could take 2 years of intervention when the child is 5. She'll be talking so much in a year or so, you will look back and wonder why you ever worried in the first place! ;)

Matil - posted on 08/20/2012

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Hello There- What has her pediatrician said? Any areas of concerns from them? I would look into first getting a hearing screening, even though she seems to hear things like Nick songs. I would also look into seeing a developmental pediatrician, you can request one from your dr. If anything, it can give you some answers. Take care! :)

Kaza0010 - posted on 08/19/2012

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Don't stress too much... I had a friend that has a little boy. and he was literally a mute until he was 3 and half.... then he came out and had FULL ON conversations with us, he was just taking it all in, watching and learning (little did we know) and he is fine... I also have another friend and her daughter just points, or shows them what she wants... But she may be a little tounge twisted, and it all seems to hard for her to spit the words out... I would maybe go to a speech therapist before thinking the worst. She may just be stubborn, like you said, and don't let other experiences scare the crap out of you... cause another mums opinion can make all the difference on you, so don't allow them to get to you too much, we are all very different.

Lauren - posted on 08/16/2012

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I would have her evaluated by a speech pathologist and have the hearing checked. My son has been in speech therapy since birth (he is deaf and a cochlear implant recipient) and most children by 24 months should have about 200 or more words and putting at least 2 and 3 words together. Ie. "More please", "want truck" etc.... There are lots of speech disorders (apraxia, etc) that therapy could assist with, or she could just be a slow starter. But fetter safe than sorry, and if it is a problem, early intervention is very important!

Megan - posted on 08/16/2012

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My daughter is 29 months and she just really started talking. I do not think there is anything you should be worried about. Some kids start earlier then others and if you brought her to see anyone they would be worried about her hearing but if you feel like her ears are working just fine I would just wait it out and I am sure she will start talking more. You are doing everything perfectly keep up the good work!!

Julia - posted on 08/15/2012

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My firstborn was like that . . . she didn't talk hardly at all but could sing to The Wiggles. I was always told since she met all other milestones in a somewhat timely manner (she was behind in everything) not to worry too much, just keep talking to her. She didn't really start talking until she was 3, but was also very reserved in every way. She had her hearing tested as well and there were no issues. She is ten now and a normal kid in every way, if still reserved.

If your baby is doing everything else on time I really wouldn't worry overmuch. If she is a first baby, I wouldn't worry at all. lol Those first babies are stubborn and know how to manipulate mommy pretty well. She will talk when she has something to say.

Rachelle - posted on 08/15/2012

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My son is autistic and I don't believe you should have a concern for that diagnosis. At his school there are some kiddos with communication delays. Those children receive speech therapy. I would take her in to get tested as most states only offer services until age 3. It's better to face the delay now then when she is possibly behind in kindergarten. Good luck!

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