Should my nearly 2 year old cry when told off

User - posted on 02/06/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am struggling with my 22 month child, whenever I tell him off, (get down explain no and why) and then put him on time out he doesnt react at all, he refuses to say sorry (he doesnt really talk yet). The usual is him biting, this I can deal with at home with my daughter nearly 3 years but when we are at groups, because he has seriously hurt another child and when I am putting him on time out and saying no he doesnt scream and cry other mums have started saying that I am not dealing with it and he needs to be punished (I assume to the point where he is also crying) he wont give any other child a cuddle to say sorry other than his family. I run a group and lots of comments have been made.
Should I scream and shout and smack him just to get a reaction so it looks like I am dealing with him appropriately?

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Gigi - posted on 02/08/2013

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Maybe you should stop running a playgroup until you have it under control. It is difficult to make a point of "leaving" when you are in your own house.
That said, biting is not acceptable and if your aproach is not working, then you have to find a new one. Screaming and smacking a child just teaches him that "screaming and smacking" is acceptable. So I wouldn't do that. And you can't expect a child who does not talk to say "sorry". I would just expect him not to bite again.
Try finding something that he will react to and stick with it. The only times when my daughter went to time out were great offenses and then I would silently carry her into her crib and leave her there for few minutes. Afterwards, I would explain why and we would talk. She always got the point since I used time out very sparingly and I think that the act of calmly/silently carrying her to her bedroom was a big deal for her.

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Amy - posted on 02/07/2013

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I understand that you run one if the groups but in order to get him to stop biting you may have to get someone to assist you. I'm sure the other moms will step up if you explain you are trying a new approach.

Amy - posted on 02/06/2013

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Screaming, shouting, and smacking isn't going to accomplish anything. Is there any way you can do time out away from the group and kids so he can't see them, or can you leave everytime he bites. If you leave and say to him we have to leave now because you bit X maybe the other moms will feel you are "dealing with it". My kids never bit so I can't offer any advice on how to get him to stop.

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