showering with your 3year old son... yes or no?

Katie - posted on 05/25/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )




So i have a 3year old and i am a single mother... the only way i can find time to shower is if i take my son with me. My exhusband sees this as a problem and wants to call social services on me. I was wondering what other moms thought of this...

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Dunia - posted on 08/09/2012




Hi I have a 3 years old boy and i will like to know if it is bad to shower with him? I'm his mom.

Tina - posted on 05/29/2009




I think once your son asks "What's that?" It's time to stop. I saw the show the Doctors and they addressed this issue. Check out their site. :)

Esther - posted on 05/28/2009




I don't think there is anything wrong with that at all. Until it becomes awkward for you or your son, I don't see any problem with it at all. My son is only 17 months old, but I shower with him all the time. Your ex is being ridiculous.

Jen - posted on 05/28/2009




I don't see a problem with it. My dad used to take me in the shower with him when I was little. I take my daughter in the shower with me and she's at the curious stage (she's 18 months) so she points to my body and says my anatomy which I'm hoping she doesn't ever say outside of the house lol. She's a little sponge when it comes to learning words though. Your ex husband should call social services so they can laugh in his face lol. Good luck.

Sara - posted on 05/27/2009




If you want to stop just to shut him up (I don't think you're doing anything wrong) then what I used to do is buy some fun things for my twins to do only when I'm in the shower. So like sticker books, or special coloring books, etc. Then I would gate off the part of the bathroom I didn't want them in, so they were only in front of the shower where I could see them. Then I'd shower and they'd have a fun time.

Sarah - posted on 05/27/2009




hey there

I basically have the same veiw as all the other mums. I am a working mum and my son is a water fanatic he is 2 and a half and he has a shower with me in the morning and I personally didn't even think of it as a problem. Your ex is crazy and is just looking for bad points to pin on you, obviously he has none if thats all he can come up with...

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Quoting April:

BTW, I think that social services would just laugh at your ex.

I agree.  Social services is busy dealing with ACTUAL abuse and neglect cases.  If anything, you are teaching your son the importance of good hygeine by doing what you have to do to clean yourself.  Tell your ex to go piss up a rope lol 

Veronica - posted on 05/26/2009




Do you have time when your son sleeps?? Just something to think about futuristically - i usually shower at noon - two of my kids are at school theother three are taking a nap -- or else i take one in the morning before they wake up -- think about that for something futuristically when he gets to the point where he's getting too old. Take care, the old man is crazy! lol

Simone - posted on 05/26/2009




My son is 15 months and e and my husband take turns in having a bath him. He loves it and it helped give him confidence with having a bath. If I'm honest I love having a splash in the bath with him, but love water anyway! At the moment he still hates showers, no matter how fun we try and make it. I can't see any problem with you showering with your 3 yr old, don't let your ex make you feel uneasy over it. As long as you're both happy and it works for you and your son, why not shower together.

Amanda - posted on 05/26/2009




I think it is fine too, but now my son has turned four and we have stopped it. Just before he turned 4 he started asking questions and I didn't feel comfortable or trying to touch, so now if he begs to shower with someone then we let him shower with daddy, because they are the same. Maybe you can turn on his fave movie and I know that when I turn on my sons fave movie he will be occupied long enough for you to shower, but I don't think their is a problem, but their may end up being one.

April - posted on 05/25/2009




I say its ok. I have not actually showered with my son, but he is in the bathroom when I'm in the shower, and hes there when I get out and get ready. He's more concerned with playing in the sink than what I'm doing. I think even if he notices that somethings aren't the same, there is nothing sick about it, just explain that you're a mommy and things are different... he won't ask any more questions, I'm sure. Kids don't care if you don't make a big deal about it. IDK, maybe I'll feel differently when my son is 3?

Penny - posted on 05/25/2009




I understand your frustration with not having any time. I am a single mother of a two year old. I don't shower with my son myself but I don't really see anything wrong with it until he starts to ask questions and notice things being different on your body than his. Then it might be time to stop but as for him calling social services what are they going to say that you are a hard working single mother who has to find time to clean herself and her child and you are doing the best you can.

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