showers together.....

Kareen - posted on 04/20/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )




Hi, My baby girl is 9 months. She and I like to take baths together. I used to do the same with my boys. I stopped when they were around 1 year and a halfish. Just wondering when would I stop with my girl, since she is a girl. When would it start to become inappropriate.


Perri - posted on 04/22/2009




mY CHILDREN ARE 12, 10 AND 21MO. They see me naked in passing... I don't act ashamed of my body but a little modesty. I think the best signifier is the comfort of your children... they will be fine with it for a long time to come. Enjoy!

Melissa - posted on 04/21/2009




I agree with the other posts on here - my son is 15 months & I love showering with him, he actually prefers to shower than to bathe lol - he snuggles into me when I hold his back against the water. Enjoy it while it lasts! I don't think it's inappropriate and like someone else said, you can use it as an educational thing as well. Now, with all that said, I'm not sure how long I'll shower with my son, but we'll take it a shower at a time lol!


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Jenn - posted on 04/22/2009




I think it's time to stop when they really get to talking. When they can say hey my mom has these parts and you dont kind of thing. My daughter is almost two and I shower with her, theres no problem in it as long as they dont go around saying it to everyone on the street.

Carra - posted on 04/22/2009




I agree with Emily. I still shower with my near 2 year old boy. I use bath time as an opportunity to play with him and make it a learning experience. When either of us becomes uncomfortable, then bath time together will end.

Crystal - posted on 04/22/2009




I still shower with my 2 year old son. He would much rather take a shower than a bath. He showers with my husband as well. I don't see anything wrong with it what so ever.

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Personally, I don't see anything wrong with bathing with your children. They will let you know when privacy becomes an issue for them. My son is 18 months and I still bring him in the shower with me once or twice a week. My friend would shower with her daughter if they were in a time crunch until her daughter turned around 5 I think. One day her daughter just let her know that she didn't like sharing the shower with Mommy anymore and that was the end of it.

Amy - posted on 04/20/2009




My daughter is two and there are times when we are pressed for time and we jump in the shower together. i don't think it's a problem. i don't make a big deal about it and she thinks it's fun to have company. it can be a little unnerving when she decides to touch stuff that doesn't belong to her but i use it to teach her about privacy and boundaries. i think that girls are different than boys. we have the same stuff and eventually it's going to look the same. i grew up in a house that you were to stay covered up and keep your body and it's functions private. it was awful growing up having to learn things by myself. i don't wantto do that to my daughter. i don't want her to be self-conscious. if she has questions, let her ask me. after all, i cleaned those parts for a good portion of her life. i feel that there will be a time when i feel that it's time to give up the tandum showers and i'll just know. or maybe it will be her that decides it first. generally i don't think about it

Esther - posted on 04/20/2009




My son is approaching 1.5 years and I still shower and bathe with him. I don't feel there is anything inappropriate about it at all. If he was 16, yeah, that would be a bit creepy, but when they are this young? If you are uncomfortable with being naked around them after a certain point, put on a bathing suit if you have to, but enjoy those baths!

Joanne - posted on 04/20/2009




I don't think it IS inappropriate. Why would it be? I'll be interested to read other people's answers to your question because I don't really understand what is inappropriate about it. Maybe if you walked down to street naked, but showering or in the bath it's natural to be naked. Maybe don't worry so much and enjoy these fun bath times with your kids.

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