Sleeping

Pushpa - posted on 08/23/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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my gal is 3 yrs 7months she wants to sleep in my room and not in her room though her lil sis 1 yr 6 months sleeps alone in their cribs in the kids room (nursery ) she is adament and cries her heart out if i put her to sleep in the other room i have also tried giving her a seperate room for which she is not agreeing with me ever since her birth she sleeps in the kids room in a baby cot now she dosnt want a baby cot a single bed or any thing but wants to sleep in my room

wht to do

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Pushpa - posted on 08/23/2010

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thank u Renee, my probs is if she cries my twins aged 18 months sleep is also disturbed and they dont settle down fast once their sleep is disturbed i tried leaving the light outside their room on and in the bath room if i persuaded her to sleep alone one non she bedwetted, i ust cant do anything my husband says its ok when she grows she'l go and sleep alone he never wants her to cry at night

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If none of your efforts work by the time she is 4, I would lay down the law and don't give in no matter what she does. You can coax her at first, but don't listen and debate with her, don't give in. If she gets out of her bed for that process, calmly take her back, not saying anything to her. (This is called the "rapid return method") Repeat how you always put her in bed covering her up ect, give a kiss and say a word or two if you like. But don't sit/stand there talking with her, walk out like you always do for this routine. You need to repeat yourself the same way in what you say and what you do every time you do this. This method can take a couple of weeks to completely work, but it does work, if you stick to all the guidelines. The most stubborn kids may get up repeatedly or lay there and cry for a while. But I haven't ever seen one stay awake longer then 3 hours with this method. Get other parental figures in the household involved so that she will know that she can't play you against each other. Also it's nice to take turns since you often have to repeat everything you already did every few minutes for hours. If you keep at and be consistent, it will work.

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