so frustrated!

Alicia - posted on 11/11/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My daughter was born august 09, and since about 7 months old she has been sleeping 12 hours a night. About 5 months ago she just stopped, now she is waking anywhere between 4 and 12 times a night. I could seriously just scream. She's not hungry, sick, wet, or thirsty. I just don't get it. My husband is deployed and I have no one to share my frustration with, I just need advice on how to make this stop. I'm to the point where I feel like I was never meant to be a mother because all I do lately is yell at her. She is rude all day, timeouts don't work, ignoring her tantrums don't work, and I won't spank her because she has been hitting lately, and I feel that sends the wrong message to her. She won't nap most days, I was ok with the rudeness and the no sleep all day because I thought hey atleast I get a fresh nights sleep to be able to start all over the next day. WRONG! There is no sleep happening at my house and i'm seriously starting to dislike my daughters actions. I love her but gahhhhahfjl. Any advice would be awesome! Thanks in advance

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Christy - posted on 11/12/2011

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Teething or growing pains (causes severe leg cramps). Try some water to hydrate her and some motrin alterated with Tylenol.

Summer - posted on 11/11/2011

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Alicia, 2 yr molars can take MOnths to actually come in.... I have been dealing with it with my DD for going on 3 months, they finally came in and we are all good, but hers kept coming in, then going back and so on, but every time theyd move even under the serface it would cause issues

Alicia - posted on 11/11/2011

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@Ashley thanks for your reply! I'm not overly sure if it's teeth, but i'm not one to give tylenol unless I know for sure she needs it. Everyday I try naps, we start at noon and go back and forth til about 4 when she finally falls asleep. But because she naps so late (4-7) she doesn't go to bed til 11-12, which didn't use to bother me because she would sleep til 10. The first time she wakes up is around 2 for something to drink that doesnt bother me, but then she wakes up at 3, 4, 430,5, and 6 where finally I give up and we get up at 6 am. Which is what surprises me most about how she doesn't nap. Anyway I leave a baby gate at her door at night, so she can't go outside in the middle of the night. I'm not a light sleeper, so it takes me awhile to get up with her anyway, so she has plenty of time to go back to sleep by herself shes just persistent and opens the door and screams at the top of her lungs til I go get her. haha.She is a stubborn one.

Ashley - posted on 11/11/2011

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Alicia, Molars come in from 18m to 3 years or beyond. Which can be daunting if every molar bothers her this much. But I think she is probably just wakes up now b/c she has been and her night time sleep is all messed up. My son did the same thing for 3 months at 2ish and to get him back to sleeping full nights I had to ignore him... sounds soo bad especially if you are like me and wake the moment she wakes and you don't fall alseep until after she does. but she needs to get herself to sleep regualirly. It is hard as hell to be the mom that doesn't do anything but you cannot go on with no sleep or your nerves will be lost. However in saying that I would of course check and make sure that your daughter doesn't actually need anything the first time. My son would want water and quick cuddle, but I only stayed a minute or 2. then the next time I wouldn't go at all. IF you are certain that it is her teeth than yes the tylenol can help by keeping the pain down and hopefully she will have a good nights sleep and so will you.
Also if there is anyone who can take her for a walk or for a few hours so you can get a nap in it can usually help you deal with your yelling.
Also forced naps... meaning put her in her bed till she sleeps or is in there 1 hr. I had to use that on my son too so I could get away from him 1 hr everyday... sounds incredibly mean but again if she is tired sometimes being alone in her bed or even crying till she sleeps is what she amy need. Overtiredness can be terrible for children her age.
I hope something in this ramble helps... Not everything will and not everyone agrees with me I am sure...
Also for the nap or the bedtime... I used to put my son in his bed but b/c he could get out I would sometimes sit outside his room with a magazine so he couldn't get out.

Alicia - posted on 11/11/2011

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@katherine do 2 year molars take awhile to come in? I know she would stop sleeping for the other teeth, but it was usually only about 2 weeks.

@summer that might just work. thanks!

Summer - posted on 11/11/2011

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reward her GOOD behavior, since punishments arent working. try it from the other side

Katherine - posted on 11/11/2011

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2 year molars. My daughter was born March 2009 and she is just getting them. Give her some Tylenol.





Edit to add: Neither of my daughters EVER slept, I thought I was going to die.

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